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You don’t really know if you’re attracted to someone until you’ve gone on several dates with them

Good advice, yea or nay? Please explain your answer in the comments, that’s why I didn’t include a poll.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
You may be physically attracted to them, but until you get to know them well, you can't say you're attracted to who they are.
Theyitis · 36-40, M
@DearAmbellina2113 I should have provided more context. There’s a girl I think would like to go out with me, but I don’t really feel motivated to ask her out. Should I ask her out anyway, even though I feel reluctant to do so, based on the principle that I don’t really know if I’m attracted to her or not because we haven’t gone on several dates together yet?
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@Theyitis Ask her out. The only way you can find out if you like her is to get to know her.
SexyKebab · 26-30, F
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
True. Physical attraction does not make a relationship. It means you want them for their body. Alot of people that put alot of effort into their looks have terrible personalities because they are superficial or selfish or maybe just grew up ritch and spoiled so they lack empathy. True beauty comes from the personality and how they conduct themselves around others. Personally i wouldnt date someone until we were friends for a few months atleast. Your significant other should be your best friend because you spend the most time with them. They should be an asset to your life. You shouldnt be held back because your relationship. I think people who have been bullied or broken have more empathy because they know what it feels like to be hurt so they avoid hurting others. Diamonds are made under pressure. Some times the most damaged people are the ones to keep. (Depending on how they handle themselves)
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
Not always. There's no rule about that. You can go years knowing someone and then get attracted to them or you can know them just a few minutes and feel instant attraction.
wonkywinky · 51-55, M
I wouldnt date anyone that i wasnt interested in to begin with.
I think its wrong to go on a date knowing you already have no real liking.
joahola98wj · 31-35, F
I know instantly if I'm physically attracted to someone. I have to date someone for a while to determine if I'm attracted to them for their personality, habits, behavior, and values and their similarities and differences with me.
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@joahola98wj That would be totally lost on me as I could never read the body language cues
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
There are many types of attraction. Visual, sexual, attraction to personality...
Sometimes all it takes is one date to see if you want to pursue it any further. If you go out on a date and you have a conversation with someone and their self-centered and not a nice person regardless of how attractive they are you're not really going to be interested in going on the next date. At least for me.
dale74 · M
Well depends on how long you have known them
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
You have to be with a person to know them so the other person has to trust you enough to want to be with you. Also a person has to 'get' you before you can have a rewarding fulfilling romantic sexual relationship experience with someone otherwise its baseless and false.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
Not true in my case, I can feel attraction after just seeing someone one time, and that's enough to peak my interest to keep seeing them and get to know them and if everything checks out, we go steady. That's how I did with my man.
exexec · 61-69, C
I knew I was attracted to her physically and to her personality when I first met her, but that attraction grew over the first few dates. I have no idea when It became true love.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
Nah.. chemistry is chemistry.. It often takes a few more dates to decide you’re not that into them or become more attracted to them, but not to later discover the chemistry itself
Yes, if beyond just the first impression/ looks based kind of attraction. It should take awhile to know if there is a true, deeper level of attraction involved.
I don't date based on looks alone... He can be Brad Pitt - but if he's got the personality of a wet sponge, he's not going to keep my attention for long.
Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25
You can be attracted to anyone. Initial attraction fades. Familiarity and comfort do not build unless you like the person or they do good things for you
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
I think that’s typically true…although, I can say, upon my first face to face meeting with my guy, I knew that I would love him.
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Not always but most of the time I think we know if we are interested or not. Sometimes you'd be surprised though.
Lilymoon · F
You'll know the gist after a few weeks but Imo it takes a long time to really know someone
Sunstone · 41-45, F
It can often happen straight off.
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
Love or attraction?
I can either instantly or over time feel attraction, it varies. Love however, I think you need to know someone a while.
Theyitis · 36-40, M
@basilfawlty89 I guess I should have provided more context. There’s a girl that I think would like to go out with me, but I don’t really feel attracted to her, I don’t feel motivated to ask her out. Should I do it anyway because “I don’t really know if I’m attracted to her or not because we haven’t gone on multiple dates together yet”?
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
I think with some women, one can see that they're physically attractive right off the bat. Then, after a few dates, it can be determined if you dig her or want to run screaming.
Phsyically? Meh, I'm old so would go for personality too
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
Absolutely. There might be superficial things you have in common, and they might look nice, but until you get to know them, you have no idea of the depths of crazy you're dealing with, or how their crazy interacts with your crazy.

 
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