How do I get over my highway/interstate driving anxiety?My driving instructor was actually really good. But there was so much traffic and I was so anxious the whole time. It was supposed to make it easier for for me, sort of break the ice, but instead it made me more anxious.
What do you think about sexting?It does nothing for me. I don't know how people feel aroused from it. I also don't feel comfortable doing anything on camera, but we're just starting to date and we live long distance, so I know it'll be an issue. It's frustrating because I know this...See More »
I finally met someone--and of course he moved to another stateAt first he sounded like he would be willing to move back. But when I talked to him today, he had completely flipped. I can't move because of my job. We're both up there in age and want to marry and have kids so these things have to be worked out...See More »
How would you react if someone you went on a date with asked to be your slave?Has this ever happened to you? The situation is we work together. I'm in a new role which means we interface more often. There was some tension. I just noticed he was rude and snappy all the time. Finally, we had this major blow up in the office over...See More »
Are there some people who just don't belong in this world?Sometimes when we say someone was ahead of their time, I think about how horrible their daily existence was and how there was absolutely nothing they could really do to make it more bearable. so many people are so miserable, so many are ticking time...See More »
Long CovidAre any of you experiencing long Covid? What has that been like? I have a colleague who had to go on long term disability because of the brain fog and fatigue.
Do you believe in the power of prayer?There are some things I've been praying for my whole life that haven't come true, so now I'm getting to the point where I think prayer is for finding the strength to accept terrible things as they are rather than for changing the circumstances. Have...See More »
The friend on the fringeI have lots of friend groups that I'm on the fringe of. This means that these folks are more like acquaintances than friends. I get invited along when it's convenient in some way, but these are not people I could count on in any way. Like to me, real...See More »
So why is it so hard for some guys to talk?I met a guy over the summer. We had a nice first date. I thought there was potential there. But since then nothing. Instead, he just sends me a random text about once a week with random questions, like "what's better motivation or discipline"? to...See More »
I got some terrible news yesterday and I'm just so heartbrokenIt puts everything related to my future in peril. It makes me feel like there's no hope. Everything just feels pointless right now. And I have no one to offer me comfort or support. I just feel like I don't know what I'm doing here.
How do you cope with unbearable loneliness?I go through cycles when I can pretend, but sometimes i'm just overcome by loneliness.
So depressed again.I met someone, we hit it off, and I tried to set up a date but got the runaround. My hopes are dashed again. I never used to get so depressed about rejection, but now I do. It pretty much set me off and now all the little things that have bothered me...See More »
Failing at 40-no relationship -no friends -no kids -on the verge of losing job -anxiety about driving -fat -can't afford to buy a home
What is a dream you've given up on?I gave up on home ownership. I had some money I've been saving since 2015 to put toward a down payment and finally just started spending it. I bought a new couch, which I've needed for at least the last 5 years. I spent some money to go overseas to a...See More »
How do you develop meaningful adult relationships?I just had surgery. Not one of them called to see how my recovery is going.
At what point did you realize that your parents, although well-meaning, are not equipped to advise you?When I was in college, I realized my parents couldn't advise me on most matters. Their advice on homeownership, income properties, savings, stocks, education, marriage, and even family planning had to be quietly disregarded. I feel bad saying this,...See More »
What's a lucrative career with good work/life balance?I want to afford a nice home in a safe neighborhood with an excellent school district. I want to afford quality childcare and good educational and extracurricular opportunities.
how to get over someone...I try really hard not to like someone if I know it won't go anywhere, but I ended up liking my trainer. He's such a gentleman. I'm nearly 40 and I've never been treated with kindness and care by a man before this. He was always professional, but I...See More »