How many kids do you have / want?

@PhoenixPhail You never know what may cross your path ^^

@kimmy159 This is true. 😀

@SpoiledRottenPassengerPrincess haha

@HijabaDabbaDoo Ohh chances are (s)he will definitely terrorise people XD

@kimmy159 👀

@HijabaDabbaDoo My own son is a master at doing it and making it seem like he's innocent :-))

@Harriet03 Hahaha we think alike XD

@kimmy159 ✌

@ginnyfromtheblock rip ginnys vaginny

@SW-User she had a good run

@ginnyfromtheblock i've heard tell

@Longpatrol Imagine like 1/10th of that amount suddenly knocking at his door: "Hiii daddy! Remember that sperm you donated?" 😂

@kimmy159 And I would call them all "my little spooge-cup" as a pet name.

@BlueVeins How cute haha

@kimmy159 Miscarriage. She had 4 holes in her heart.

@SW-User Sorry for your loss <3

@kimmy159 Thank you so much. ❤

@Platinum Beautiful family!

@SW-User thanks...

@Platinum You're welcome.

Yeah...I love him but he’s exhausting. I like the teenage years better personally when they go in their room and shut the door 😉.@kimmy159

@Keepitsimple and as soon as he does you can't wait to get him back tomorrow 🤗

@saragoodtimes I must be the worst grandmother cause I can wait. I have off today and no...I don’t miss him. I hope today goes slow as hell, lol.

@QuietEd2019 the first time I held my youngest grandson, people thought I was his mom lol. He's 4 now already.

@SW-User Well you look very youthful Zenni :D

@kimmy159 Thank you Kimmy!

@Chasingthesun me too, me too :) 👍

@Dainbramadge That actually witheld me from starting to try for kids for quite some time. I was too scared to fuck it up (that and the situation wasn't stable enough before). Now that I have one, I can't imagine wanting 6 of those hahah ;p Or maybe that's because we had a crybaby the first 6 months.

@kimmy159 I love everything about my kids.
I found, with all three, they only cry for three reasons.
Hungry.
Diaper is full.
Wants attention.
Oh and some times gas.
My sister was colicky and my parents didn't know what to do. But they went on to have two more.
I almost waited to long before everything was right to have them.

@Dainbramadge My husband is the "let's wait a little bit longer" type too. And then months turn into years before you know it lol. Our son has reflux, the kind where he only slept 4 hours (counted together) a day and where he cried the rest of it because he was so uncomfortable. We're pretty sure the next kid would have it too. My hubby works abroad so he's only home part time pretty much to help out. Aside from that, we want to be able to save up money for our kid(s) too and put all them through college if they so want to. We find it a tough decision whether we can do all of that for 2. (I would say maybe even 3 but he'll definitely not want that lol).

@CrazyMusicLover I'm usually a fan of odd personalities, so you can scrap that from the list ;p
I hope the health issues and 'bad genetics' aren't too bad for you though =(
As for the trauma's, (I won't speak for you or generalize it of course,) a lot of people who know how to deal with their own trauma's (as in keeping it in check) or who can keep it from influencing other people, can actually make up some of the best parents. Some wisdom only comes from hard lessons (even if it's sad we had to learn them the rough way...)

@kimmy159 It might not seem as a big deal but then your child goes to school and can't find his or her place then he or she suffers.
I have a big scar on my belly after a major surgery. It still hurts sometimes even after so many years. It feels as if my nerves were damaged there but maybe it's just some other issue I don't know about. I've had gallstones since puberty and Hashimoto's thyroiditis since early adulthood. All that means that I would have to have a very strong motivation to risk pregnancy. Then I would have to constantly check my thyroid hormones and probably do something about gallstones...All in all, if I felt emotionally strong enough to raise a child, I'd rather adopt.

@CrazyMusicLover I understand what you mean. I never felt like I belonged when I went to school. It sucked having to go through that. But looking back to it now, I wouldn't have wanted to adapt to whatever they were like. I'm more succesfull in life than any of them who used to bully me. But not everyone can thrive from a situation like that, that I fully acknowledge.
You seem like a strong person yourself, and rational too for knowing what you want/ can handle and what not ^^ I agree, it's not something to risk your health over :0

@tallpowerhouseblonde Good communication is worth a lot :D
The "problem" is that my partner and I started dating when we were 16, kids weren't yet on our list of topics to discuss back then haha :D
Was/Is it challenging to start off with twins?
My boy is 14 months old now ^^

@kimmy159 Twins is a challenge still.I gave birth naturally,now that was exhausting.Then breastfeeding 2 hungry babies, getting woke up.Lucky my employer has a generous maternity scheme.
Wow 16 is young for a long term partner.True love for sure.I was 22 when I met my boyfriend.

@tallpowerhouseblonde How long were you in labor for? :0 It sounds very exhausting ;p
Mine was (induced?) sorry my English dictionary doesn't have the right word for it yet XD They gave me pills to wake up contractions but apparently I was very resilient to their effect (although they did give me contractions). On top of that I couldn't walk around because they had to monitor the baby's reaction to the meds all the time so I just had to lay there. They broke my water manually the next day and then it still took about 5 hours before it really started happening. The baby was a stargazer, so he got stuck and they had to press my belly and use that plumbing thing to get him out 👀 44 hours later... finally held him in my arms 🤩

@adorbz Totally understand. I used to be like that too ^^

@adorbz Me too

@GerOttman Whoah that must have been a shock to find out at first ;p Did you find it tough to take care of 2 babies at the same time?

@kimmy159 Well, we were actually doing the fertility thing. So it wasn't a complete shock. Yeah, it was a challenge taking care of 2 newborns. Heck it was a challenge taking care of 2 teenagers I guess. We got through it and wouldn't change anything.

@Tastyfrzz Do you sometimes wish you would've had 2 or does it have more advantages to only have 1? I'm asking because I also have one and we're seriously doubting whether to go for a second child or not :-)) We see both the plus and down sides in our own situation. Just curious how other people experience it.

My Bf is only 17. He's not ready yet.

Maybe he will be soon? ya think?

@SevenTierCrazyCake we are much alike. I like it lol

@Gangstress we are 😌

@sassypants I do understand your concerns ^^ It's definitely something to think about.

@kimmy159 it seems like you are certain so what doubts is your partner having?

@sassypants Our son has reflux and it made him a crybaby the first 5-6 months (in the form of only sleeping 4 hours a day if you count it together). I had a very rough time then because my husband started working abroad. Although he is home more than he is away, it's sometimes tough to do it on my own (I really admire parents who have to do it on their own, I don't think I could do it).
We're pretty sure the second one would be the same.

But his main concern is finances. We want to save up for both children if we'd have 2 and want to be able to put them both through college if they so wish. We now have a luxury position where we get to save a lot for our kid without having to sacrifice or worry too much about finances.
But to be very honest, our loans are quite heavy. If one of the 2 would lose their job and has to do a less-paying job, we'd be struggling to get by. Especially in his field, it's very tough to get another job. The contract he has now depends on the continuity of the contracts of his company so it's never certain 🤷‍♀️

@kimmy159 check ur pms woman!! XD

@XDHyperGirlXD1 If you give me a cookie, I will ;p

@kimmy159 no deal *eats cookie* 👀😂

@AngelKrish Heheh that is what most people would want if they got to choose :D I think I would like that too, I already have a son of almost 1,5 years old :-)) Maybe the next will be a girl? 😄

@SW-User Of course dear! ☺️
I wish for healthy childrens too!

@kimmy159 All the best 😇👍
Baby girl will born this time!

@DoubleRings How old are your furry kids? :D Mine are 8 and 7,5 ^^

@kimmy159 5 months and 13.5 years lol

@JoshuaLondon Seems a bit drastic XD

@Marceline Oh wow, I don't hear a lot of people saying they want several kids after 30. As for me, I was always quite happy with having a kid in my late twenties rather than at the beginning of them so I do think around 30 is a good time to start ^^

@kimmy159 yeah... i think we are medically advanced enough that kids over 30 and below 40 shouldnt be a big deal...

and i wanna enjoy my 20s without brats haha

@Marceline Could only recommend that last sentence haha XD
-- Until you have a crybaby for the first 6 months and you're like: "whyyy why didn't I do this at the beginning of my twenties, he'd be over this phase by now. I want to sleep so badly!" XD
Jk :p never regretted the timing :D

@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout I miss those nappy days 😭

@Fairydust I also have 2 hairy kids with each 4 paws ;p

@kimmy159 woof

@SW-User I have 3 but honestly they are so expensive and need so much attention. I completely understand only wanting one

@Chasingthesun Hahah that's also the main reason why we're in doubt of adding a second one or not :p

@SquirrelGirl I had my son at 28 last year, never regretted postponing it until then ^^ It offers more peace of mind to have your "shit" arranged before any children are in the picture.

@NankerPhelge Would you do things differently if you could or no regrets? :D

@kimmy159 I've no intention of ever having children. I have deliberately and successfully shunned it so far.