How many kids do you have / want?

@sassypants Are you both on the same page on having one more? My partner is still doubting ;p

@kimmy159 yes we are. Our concern is the pandemic and the issues of the world right now. What kind of a life are our children going to have?

@sassypants To be honest, I'm personally not thinking about that part. Perhaps there was a time where our parents / grandparents / ... could also say "what kind of life is there for our children in the future?" I think that's a question that will always apply because there might always be something that's happening / could happen in the future ^^

@kimmy159 That is very true. Especially our grandparents who were born in war times. We want our children to be happy and have it better than we did.

@sassypants Indeed :D But alas, we can't predict everything (or is it anything lol?) nor protect them from everything ^^
To me, it's a soothing thought that most things pass as well. We can only do our best. The pandemic might be our reality now, but Mankind has already overcome a lot of things ^^ If not, we adapt.

@kimmy159 the pandemic is not the sole concern. The United is so divided and the hate and the violence are very real. It is terrifying I'm not trying to persuade you in any way. I'm just saying it is something to think about

@sassypants I do understand your concerns ^^ It's definitely something to think about.

@kimmy159 it seems like you are certain so what doubts is your partner having?

@sassypants Our son has reflux and it made him a crybaby the first 5-6 months (in the form of only sleeping 4 hours a day if you count it together). I had a very rough time then because my husband started working abroad. Although he is home more than he is away, it's sometimes tough to do it on my own (I really admire parents who have to do it on their own, I don't think I could do it).
We're pretty sure the second one would be the same.

But his main concern is finances. We want to save up for both children if we'd have 2 and want to be able to put them both through college if they so wish. We now have a luxury position where we get to save a lot for our kid without having to sacrifice or worry too much about finances.
But to be very honest, our loans are quite heavy. If one of the 2 would lose their job and has to do a less-paying job, we'd be struggling to get by. Especially in his field, it's very tough to get another job. The contract he has now depends on the continuity of the contracts of his company so it's never certain 🤷‍♀️