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I’m worried that I’m maybe boring to be around

I’m not really that good at being friends or getting too close to people, I used to kinda hide this by being kinda mean, but for obvious reasons I’ve stopped doing that. I’m concerned that my girlf maybe thinks I’m a bit boring 😬. I am really nervous and worry about getting close, I get drunk really easily and do stupid stuff which I think she’s a bit embarrassed about. Sorry I’m venting, I don’t even know what I’m asking here, I think I just needed to write this down.

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Boeing · 36-40

none is boring, if you feel so, get involved with something maybe that you find interesting, to regain your own interest..
As of getting drunk..you are young and it is your own process and only you can know when this will be over. It took me years to rid of alcohol but truly if I'd go back, I'd drink less.
<3

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok, I have the day off tomorrow so I’m going to go for a walk in the countryside. Thankyou so much, you have inspired me! 😊😊😊@Boeing

Boeing · 36-40

@Strongtea take a picture for us :))

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok, I will!! 😊@Boeing

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

I know I'm boring.
For myself I don't care that I'm boring.
I think it's good that you're working on yourself and not trying to be so angry.
Sometimes ,you may need a little extra help by someone who's trained to help?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Hey thanks. I think I do need a little help from someone, but I feel a bit nervous and ashamed. I need to work up the courage. @Justmeraeagain

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@Strongtea
I think it's hard for anyone to go get the help they need and they say it's harder for men to do so?
I don't think there's any shame in trying to better yourself or get help.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thankyou, this helps a lot. 😊@Justmeraeagain

Royrogers · 61-69, M

I agree with Boeing. Sometimes we drink when we are bored. Perhaps try to reduce the drinking by consciously thinking i will just have one and then a soft drink and give yourself a reason such it’s work tomorrow or i want to go and do something without dealing with a headache

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thanks for this advice, I do seem to overthink things and feel bored/boring/nervous and then drink alcohol to calm down. I’ll try your advice. 😊@Royrogers

Royrogers · 61-69, M

@Strongtea I quite like savouring different teas from different countries. Why not suggest to your young lady that you both try a different tea and that becomes a common thing between you and can be done in front of a warm fire

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok yes, that’s a great idea. Thankyou. @Royrogers

LadyGrace ·

The thing to do is work on becoming your authentic self instead of pleasing other people or worrying about what others think. Try to get to the bottom of this type thinking, because it's self-destructive. If someone loves you, they will love and accept you for who you are... not what they think you should be.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thankyou, your advice is always really good, I’m really really thankful that you take the time. 😊@LadyGrace

H1raeth · 36-40, M

I don't find you boring.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thankyou. 😊@H1raeth

RockinPop54 · M

If you're not happy with yourself, you'll never be happy around others.
Find what makes you happy, then look to be happy with other people.

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RockinPop54 · M

@Strongtea Something for "Romantic times".
If you tell her it turns you on ... who knows?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

We don’t really do that stuff yet but I’ll have a look for something. @RockinPop54

RockinPop54 · M

@Strongtea If you stay together she's going to have to know eventually.
And if she wants to make you happy ...... well.

Husher

You could write down your next intention or point you want to be seen, that's interesting enough.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Hey thanks. 😊@Husher

RachelLia2003 · 22-25, F

u were a cool person when you were a bully

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

Sorry!! I just like being that way now.@RachelLia2003

RachelLia2003 · 22-25, F

@Strongtea

Strongtea · 22-25, M

😩🙄@RachelLia2003

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