I’m worried that I’m maybe boring to be around

I’m not really that good at being friends or getting too close to people, I used to kinda hide this by being kinda mean, but for obvious reasons I’ve stopped doing that. I’m concerned that my girlf maybe thinks I’m a bit boring 😬. I am really nervous and worry about getting close, I get drunk really easily and do stupid stuff which I think she’s a bit embarrassed about. Sorry I’m venting, I don’t even know what I’m asking here, I think I just needed to write this down.

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Boeing · 36-40

none is boring, if you feel so, get involved with something maybe that you find interesting, to regain your own interest..
As of getting drunk..you are young and it is your own process and only you can know when this will be over. It took me years to rid of alcohol but truly if I'd go back, I'd drink less.
<3

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thanks, I really love listening to music and reading, but these are quite lonely. I like going for walks in nature and my girlf and I will do this together but she hates the rain (we live in the north of England) so it’s mainly a summer thing! I feel pretty self conscious I think so I end up drinking to mask this, it’s time to stop but I’m so worried that I’ll find social situations really hard.
It’s inspiring to hear that you got rid of it, thankyou for sharing, it helps a lot. @Boeing

Boeing · 36-40

@Strongtea go on nature walks by yourself sometimes if it's not her thing:)

Like I wrote to the other post of yours, yes you will find social situations hard in the beginning until you learn how to do it. Don't worry, you're going to make real friends and sometimes just one friend is good enough.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thanks! I do love walking on my own, it feels incredible, like I can forget all my troubles and be free for a while, but I do feel like I’m running away sometimes. You’re right though, one true friend would be amazing!@Boeing

Boeing · 36-40

@Strongtea nature holds a lot, can teach you a lot, it is not that you are running away. It regulates the nervous system, walking is great for your heath too, do those things, don't think of them as excuses.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok, I have the day off tomorrow so I’m going to go for a walk in the countryside. Thankyou so much, you have inspired me! 😊😊😊@Boeing

Boeing · 36-40

@Strongtea take a picture for us :))

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok, I will!! 😊@Boeing