But one thing you're not gonna do is make me feel bad for taking care of myself and being independent. I'm not married, no kids, I work full time at a stressful day job that I hate, and I do cam work on the side to help. I have a bf but he does not support me financially.
I feel like I'd be judged no matter what- if I was a housewife I'd be called lazy, unmotivated. If I asked for help I'd be called a bum or a gold digger. But no, I'm a hard worker who occasionally does cam stuff to earn a little extra (trust me it's not much) and I still get judged.
Point of the story- IF YOU DON'T WANT TO PROVIDE FOR ME, HOW IS IT ANY OF YOUR BUSINESS HOW I PROVIDE FOR MYSELF???
Lots of people hop on and say wonderfully supportive things to people they absolutely do not know. It's like an echo chamber and a circle jerk of people wanting to look and sound kind and supportive. In the end the "kindness" makes them feel good about themselves. It does little to nothing to produce a long term benefit for the recipient. How much stock can you really put in comments like that?
Sometimes the truly kindest words are the hardest to hear. I don't necessary agree with Royricky09 methodology, but there is a HUGE difference in being nice and being truly kind. I hope things work out for you. I'm sure you're more than capable of finding solutions. But if you are truly struggling with severe depression, all the empty nice words from fake online friends will never help. Introspection is a sign of true intelligence and maturity. Maybe you need to make some hard changes. Sometimes even small changes start to add up. I've learned from personal experience that it is never too late to change. I wish you success.
The best time to look for a better job is when you have a job. My other thought is why tell anyone you do cam work on the side. It's no one's business.
@DearAmbellina2113 Don't say that, don't put yourself down. It's 95% attitude, I'm sure there's something about you that gets someone's attention, you're just not seeing it at the moment..
