How long had you been together before you got engaged?

A lot all at once has invaded - weddings are one of the most stressful parts of a life, everything is hitting you both at the same time. Give him some distance (distance makes the heart grow fonder kinda thing), find someone to talk to, and delay the wedding for awhile, no time frame.

If hes like a lot of us guys, we hold in all our emotions and hide whats stressing us for too long, and we are "fixers", by that I mean if we cannot fix a problem, we feel like a failure. I shut down and tend to distance myself when I do.

It could be that everything is piling on, and he cant control or shield you from it and he feels like a loser. Talk to him, tell him you love him more every day, and ask him is everything if getting to him. If hes admits it in his way, then remind him you both are a team.

Life got in the way. Priorities changed. Maybe you both changed. The good thing is he was honest and spoke to you. The biggest mistake couples make is being each others life, not sharing life. Losing parts of yourself like friends, working too much, etc can hurt the dynamic. Sit down, don't talk about the marriage, and discuss what makes you both happy. And what's changed. It will be a big but necessary eye opener. Then look at ways to get that spark back. What do each of you need to be happy. What is shared and not shared? And ask who is the wedding for. Is he as excited as you about it or has he been pushed to be a spectator? It's a lot of pressure and money if you are not partners there.

Based upon what you wrote, it's my opinion that he is not a keeper; he is a fair-weather sort; he very possibly has someone else in the wing, and I hate saying it, but it's time for you to say adios.

It's only a temporary setback, where your life together is being questioned by the new unfortunate parts of your life, what's more telling is how you two handle together this time and don't be disappointed by him expressing the spark is gone, it's him taking in this new part of your life together, expressing himself emotionally even though it is a sign you need to build more together, but this is actually your chance together to build that new understanding together even if it comes with having to learn a new appreciation of yourselves together.

Correct me if I misunderstood this. Have you planned a marriage with him that is gonna happen in two months? After being engaged a year and known eachother for 2 years max?

Couldn't it be that he's just not able to think about a wedding right now with everything else going on and shuts off to be able pulling through?

It sounds to me like it could be one of two things.
One, reality has set in for him and he's thinking that this past month is going to be his new life.
Two, he has found someone else.

I think you two need distance to figure this out. But I’ll say this: if this is how he's reacted to certain life stressors now, it doesn’t bode well for the future. It may not feel like, but this may be doing you a favor in the long run.

For your age, you could have skipped the wedding part and got married straight in June when the spark was full swing.

But now other life factors have consumed the spark. Better to call off the engagement and restart afresh.

Wow, that is so sad, just one bad thing after another. I'm really sorry for you!

It's been hard for both of you to see each other as a source of fun and excitement with all this draggy stuff in your life demanding attention.

IMHO this is the best thing to ever happen to you, at least you found out before you married him.

Your lifes over. Youre not getting any younger.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation

Thankfully your daughter is ok after the fender bender....our health is always our most prized asset.
Everything else is negotiable

Well don't get married if u both are not 100% sure of it

Good luck but it's better now then later

I went through this a few times in my lifetime. And it always been that the person I thought was interested in me was interested in somebody else. They just didn't have the balls to tell me face-to-face. I had to find out the Hard way.

That sounds problematic 🙁

I think there is someone else. Or he getting cold feet. Or he is just crazy not knowing what he wants.

Maybe he has a new gf love interest now.. i wouldn't count on a wedding.. wouldn't wanna marry a flake anyway

That sucks. It happens more often than you think.