Where do I go from here?

Long story short. Been engaged since June 2022. Everything was great. Then last month I had surgery on my ankle. My fiancé gets an office for his business, no internet for 22days, I cannot do anything for weeks, daughter gets into a fender bender, my dad comes to visit and needs a lot of assistance. It’s just been a crap month. Well my fiancé comes home and says he lost the spark, he loves me but not in love. Like. We were just talking about the wedding,which is in two months, a week ago

What happened!? I’m just lost. Now we are “trying” to work it out but he is a bit distant. Anyone else go through something similar?

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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

Correct me if I misunderstood this. Have you planned a marriage with him that is gonna happen in two months? After being engaged a year and known eachother for 2 years max?

Couldn't it be that he's just not able to think about a wedding right now with everything else going on and shuts off to be able pulling through?

Unicorn0512 · 46-50, F

@Queendragonfly yes. I am hoping it’s just that!

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Unicorn0512 I think the best you can do is show him empathy that it's been a tough month and that you have lowered all expectations and understand if you need to cancel the wedding just to give him a breather.

However. Since you only known eachother 2 years roughly it's possible he has just left honeymoon phase and seen how it's like in everyday life with you and he was never inlove just swept away by the attraction.

After two years many people break up for this reason and that's why I don't recommend to marry that soon.