Where do I go from here?

Long story short. Been engaged since June 2022. Everything was great. Then last month I had surgery on my ankle. My fiancé gets an office for his business, no internet for 22days, I cannot do anything for weeks, daughter gets into a fender bender, my dad comes to visit and needs a lot of assistance. It’s just been a crap month. Well my fiancé comes home and says he lost the spark, he loves me but not in love. Like. We were just talking about the wedding,which is in two months, a week ago

What happened!? I’m just lost. Now we are “trying” to work it out but he is a bit distant. Anyone else go through something similar?

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TallMtnMedic · M

A lot all at once has invaded - weddings are one of the most stressful parts of a life, everything is hitting you both at the same time. Give him some distance (distance makes the heart grow fonder kinda thing), find someone to talk to, and delay the wedding for awhile, no time frame.

If hes like a lot of us guys, we hold in all our emotions and hide whats stressing us for too long, and we are "fixers", by that I mean if we cannot fix a problem, we feel like a failure. I shut down and tend to distance myself when I do.

It could be that everything is piling on, and he cant control or shield you from it and he feels like a loser. Talk to him, tell him you love him more every day, and ask him is everything if getting to him. If hes admits it in his way, then remind him you both are a team.

Unicorn0512 · 46-50, F

@TallMtnMedic this. ❤️