Where do I go from here?

Long story short. Been engaged since June 2022. Everything was great. Then last month I had surgery on my ankle. My fiancé gets an office for his business, no internet for 22days, I cannot do anything for weeks, daughter gets into a fender bender, my dad comes to visit and needs a lot of assistance. It’s just been a crap month. Well my fiancé comes home and says he lost the spark, he loves me but not in love. Like. We were just talking about the wedding,which is in two months, a week ago

What happened!? I’m just lost. Now we are “trying” to work it out but he is a bit distant. Anyone else go through something similar?

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Livingwell · 61-69, M

Life got in the way. Priorities changed. Maybe you both changed. The good thing is he was honest and spoke to you. The biggest mistake couples make is being each others life, not sharing life. Losing parts of yourself like friends, working too much, etc can hurt the dynamic. Sit down, don't talk about the marriage, and discuss what makes you both happy. And what's changed. It will be a big but necessary eye opener. Then look at ways to get that spark back. What do each of you need to be happy. What is shared and not shared? And ask who is the wedding for. Is he as excited as you about it or has he been pushed to be a spectator? It's a lot of pressure and money if you are not partners there.