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If you don't have kids....

What are your thoughts or wishes on the subject? Its a topic Im really undecided about. On the one hand I LOVE kids, all their curiosity, laughter etc. I was in child care and teaching several years. But because I have never really known my own wants, I question DO I want my own baby? I think as I write this, its a yes..They're little faces and love would be a miracle. ❣️but if I couldn't or didn't have one, It wouldn't be the end of my world.
Do you have a preference, or take a *see how life unfolds* approach?
strongly want not to have. sorry. oh god, it really is a lot though coral. and plus I don't want to come off like ti was just greed that caused me not to want them because its only part of it. and its a firey mix of selfish and selfless emotions behind the decisiion not to have them. I'm not entirely selifish or selfless but a mix of both.
I genuinely do believe in man made climate change and don't want to bring a child into this climate. they're really expensive and cost prohibitive you end up spending your money on them instead and I want to travel with a romantic partner.

not be stuck raising kids with them.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
I would probably still be married.
My wife completely changed after we had our daughter.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
Wants and desires are often not realities.
Not just with kids.

While I have always wanted kids, the reality didn't present itself in either a timely manner nor with the person that didn't want to take advantage of the situation.

Yes there was one. What she wanted was to take advantage. I saw through it, as young as I was. She eventually found someone else more gullible.

I felt sorry for the guy at the time.

That was the first instance that couldn't work out. There was another, where it just wasn't physically possible. I doubt she could have kids by anyone. Hard drug addictions can do that to some.

Through the decades those where the only two possibilities.

Now? Not likely to happen at my age, nor under the current circumstances, which are not likely to change anytime soon.

That is just the reality of the situation. I have no choice but to accept it.
starmitz · 51-55, F
get a puppy
I don't seem to have a maternal instinct and I believe I am one of those people who just shouldn't have children.
I also have been at a dark place mentally for way too long and wouldn't have many positive things to offer to a kid growing up beside me.
Looking at other people how they seem to think and feel, I think there's been something made differently in me that makes me view certain things and feel about them differently.
glad18 · M
I suppose I took the *see how life unfolds* approach.

They say life happens when you're busy doing other things. I admit I got caught up in career. Most all the women I dated seemed to do the same thing.

It might not be too late for me, but the likelihood of being a parent seems to diminish day by day. As I get older, I feel myself getting a little too impatient to raise a child the way I'd want them to be.
I didn't want a child until I was in my late 20's.

When i turned 30, I REALLY wanted a child. She was exactly right.

If a person doesn't want children, they're almost always right.

I think if I were 30 today, I'd seriously consider adoption.
No kids, and I’m glad. That’s because IMO no children should come into a world like ours. Again simply my feelings.
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
As you know i was a single dad. It was really tough and expensive but it worked out. I think we last talked a week ago.
Thevy29 · 36-40, M
I like kids. I would have liked to have been a Dad. But alas.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Thevy29 You are still young🌞 For my biological clock I probably only have 5 years really left, and I get such anxiety about dating..I should probably nip that in the bud .😩
MarineBob · 56-60, M
Can we just skip the kids and go with grandkids
Have kids and think later
uncalled4 · 51-55, M
Probably not. At one point, it was the thing everybody did, but after serious consideration, it's not for me. My brother had a kid, so mom is happy being a grandma. Thanks, bro. It's not for everyone--witness how many are TERRIBLE at it.
I am not all that crazy about having kids

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