Continue chatting? I joined a meetup group on another site, and a few guys individually...

I would reply. It doesn't hurt to let him know exactly how you feel and what you are looking for. Just be upfront. If all you need is a friend. Just say i need a friend right now, are you okay with that? Thats what i told the love of my life, i said just be there for me. And over time i realized that he's my person.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

He likely is looking for dating but I'd reply even if you're only interested in friendship. Just keep your boundaries and go/no go, not ready fors clear.

Perhaps start slow and stick with what you're comfortable with- right now emails/texts. Then G rated pic sharing to see who you're each talking to, and then maybe short voice notes. That is how I've sometimes overcome so my own social anxiety.

If you get along well, and enjoy each other's camaraderie I'd imagine you'll naturally work your way up to phone/video chats then meeting in person because you'll want it more than the anxiety? Even if all you [or him] end up wanting only friendship, or only ever email/text but never speak or meet, a good friendship is worth it, but you'll only find that if you engage back.

ironborn · 51-55, M

Hard as it is, you need to be brave if you can. Get to know him, if he's the right one he'll be patient and understanding. Give him something though, your fear of not being enough might come accross as you're not interested. I know it's easy for me to say...good luck though, I'd be over the moon if it works for you.

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

Men on those sites can be very pushy. They are in some kind of hurry and I definitely don't trust it either.

You are perfectly okay to do things when you're good and ready. There will be pressure to meet face to face because ultimately you're trying to meetup, but don't feel pushed. You got a do this your way. I'm really happy for you that you're trying to get out there a bit, that's the terrifying first step lol but you did it. Have fun and play by your own rules beautiful 🖤

BillyMack · 46-50, M

A reply would be good, but you just have to stay within your comfort level. If the anxiety is that much, a good man would be ok with gradually working up to more convos.

Perhaps you could find a topic to settle on so you don’t feel overwhelmed by the call.

Just spitballing here of course.

SW-User

I get it, completely. Feel free to go as slowly as is comfortable. If this turns sour, it will be even worse for your anxiety. he will either understand, or he isn't worth the time and effort.

sarabee1995 · 26-30, F

Keep it safe at first. Chat on the site, decline invitations for anything more until you are comfortable. 🫂

JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M

Good luck!

SpiritSkye

Did you like him ? If you do talk to him .

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

Some men are just prowlers and always will be. (not everyone of course) But thats always going to be a risk you take,,😷