Continue chatting?

I joined a meetup group on another site, and a few guys individually welcomed me and one of them went more in depth. Asking about myself, telling where he's from, what he was doing that weekend. I did say I have chronic anxiety to him, right up front, about meeting one on one rn. That's why I'm attempting at least Joining a group, nevermind actually meeting up, yet.

He had wanted to chat on phone within a week so I said I have anxiety on phone too, I'm working on it but could we chat here for a bit. He said no worries, taking it slow is good, but that it's important to grow in friends or more, on phone. I have not replied. I don't want to lead anyone on for a one on one meetup. But OTOH, he was kind and seemed humorous too. Should I reply? I *think* he's looking for dating. I just don't know what to do. Like I said he did seem like a genuine person.

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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

I would reply. It doesn't hurt to let him know exactly how you feel and what you are looking for. Just be upfront. If all you need is a friend. Just say i need a friend right now, are you okay with that? Thats what i told the love of my life, i said just be there for me. And over time i realized that he's my person.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@AngelUnforgiven I'll just feel a bit pressured about when they might want to go on phone...but they might not anyway

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

@Coralmist its okay to tell them that luv. If they aren't okay with it, then thats okay too. There are other people out there. I tell people all the time. I'm not comfortable giving out my phone number. They ask me for pics all the time, and i tell them i'm not comfortable with that either. There's like 3 pics of me floating around here in threads. They are probably long buried by now. I'm not here to be thirsty or seek attention, i have a man who gives me everything that i need. So if i am just looking for conversation or an ear i'm going to tell you upfront dont expect anything else from me. This way there's no confusion.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@AngelUnforgiven That's true just being upfront is best, thank you.