Now that I'm not alone

Star is here Monday through Thursday nights. Would it be wrong of me to take a sleeping pill or a gummy knowing she's here and could get up if one of the kids had a issue at night. I am really struggling here. I need sleep but I don't feel I should ask her to do this. It's not why she moved in here.

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carpediem · 61-69, M

Get one of those wifi cameras. Point it at the kid(s). Set notifications up for motion alerts. Have your phone nearby and turn up the notifications volume. I did this when my wife was struggling with ALZ and it worked well. I was able to get up as needed and was always able to address her needs using these tools.

If you have someone to help out, they can be notified too. Result, your child is safe. Maybe you get some sleep.

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Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@geoam1 myself is the last person on my list to take care of.....

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Cigarguy101 Remember, if we can't take care of ourselves, we can't give others our all. You deserve it. Maybe you could ask her even just for 1-2 nights.

NewRaven · 51-55, F

How often do your kids have an issue at night?

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@NewRaven my daughter sleep walks. Once or twice a week now. My boy he gets up a lot at night too use the restroom but then he starts playing with toys instead of going back to bed. I have a tell him it's not time to wake up yet

Lyfis2live

You can study her timings (I guess she too studies) and make alternate days' arrangements initially.

If that works well, ask her to take over for all 4 nights. Ofc, you should pay her extra for the same.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Lyfis2live she takes evening classes but is always back by 10pm. I'm going to talk to her Monday. Of course I will pay her extra

Starmaiden · 56-60, F

There is no harm in asking. Offer her a little extra for keeping an ear open for the kids at night for two nights per week. Say Monday and Thurday nights or whatever works for both of you.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Starmaiden I plan on talking to her Monday

Poppies · 61-69, F

Maybe if you would offer to pay her a little more to be available to the kids at night?

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Cigarguy101 We all need help...do NOT feel badly.

Poppies · 61-69, F

@Cigarguy101 A person needs sleep! It's like the instruction on an airplane; make sure you have an oxygen mask on yourself first or you won't have the ability to help the people around you.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Poppies I know I'm the guy that would put it on his kids first then check the people around me before I put mine on

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