Star is really struggling

I've never dealt with something like this and have no idea, what kind of headspace he's in or not in, even. Would this "visit" be more for her or him? Or even necessary, at this point. Is he taking visits openly? Like @geoam1 stated, maybe processing time is needed.

I'm picturing a man who has just attempted the most life altering thing, physical and mental, that anyone could ever, try to bring to light, on themselves. If he's lucid or "actually there", so to speak. He's seriously dealing right now.

Would just a call suffice, or message that she's there for him, and loves him? Again I don't have a playbook on this very touchy situation.

Sorry again, and hoping all goes well.
I'm not a religious person, but thinking of all of you, and shipping all the positive jujus I can muster your way.

Star is hurt. Hurt by what her father tried to do.

Your buddy is actually extremely selfish. I know that seems mean to say it, but he was ready to ABANDON his daughter and just leave her behind to cope for herself, and support herself, and put herself through college all alone, and never see her on her wedding day, and never dance with her at her wedding, and never be there to meet his own grandchildren.

YOU know a lot about what it feels like to be abandoned by your parents. That's an incredible wound to sustain. She feels like her father does NOT love her...because if he did, how or WHY would he try to leave her????

People who are deeply depressed sometimes DO have their heads right up their own behinds. It's all about ME ME ME ME ME.. and what THEY are feeling...never giving a moment's thought to what they are doing to the people who love them.

So I would give Star PLENTY of slack. AND it might be a good idea for HER to talk to a therapist about what her Dad tried to do.

just tell her that once the hospital visit is over it's party time