Star is really struggling

As you could imagine Star is really having a hard time right now. She's so mad and confused. She told me this morning that she didn't think she wanted to go to the hospital to see him today. She just wants to have a nice day and enjoy the birthday party.

I'm not a smart guy. I don't know what to tell her. I don't blame her. It's hard seeing him like this. I think she just needs time to process. I hope.

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Levenrack · 46-50, M

I've never dealt with something like this and have no idea, what kind of headspace he's in or not in, even. Would this "visit" be more for her or him? Or even necessary, at this point. Is he taking visits openly? Like @geoam1 stated, maybe processing time is needed.

I'm picturing a man who has just attempted the most life altering thing, physical and mental, that anyone could ever, try to bring to light, on themselves. If he's lucid or "actually there", so to speak. He's seriously dealing right now.

Would just a call suffice, or message that she's there for him, and loves him? Again I don't have a playbook on this very touchy situation.

Sorry again, and hoping all goes well.
I'm not a religious person, but thinking of all of you, and shipping all the positive jujus I can muster your way.

Cigarguy · M

@Levenrack he asked if we were coming back when we left yesterday. So I think he wants us there. I called him today and asked if he wanted to see our youngest boy after his birthday party and he said yes he'd really enjoy that.

Like I said I'm not smart I don't know what the right thing is to do.

This is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with and it involves so many people.

I'm trying my best to help everyone but I just don't know

Levenrack · 46-50, M

@Cigarguy Oh good... that's actually really great. But, yeah. I can't in the slightest, imagine how everyone is feeling. Cause I'm sure, it had to be quite alot.

Cigarguy · M

@Levenrack and everyone is feeling different things right now. It's just hard to make sure everyone is ok

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Cigarguy NOBODY knows how to deal with such things. Anyone who claims they do know have not been through it.

My deep concern is that he clearly did not consider the effects on your family. What he chose to do was 1) steal medication and 2) risk that somebody finds him who can handle it. It was a crazy plan but it was a plan.

I have close and dear friends that I’ve know for half a century. For me, this would not be easy to forgive.