" Don't demand Respect from others, but don't tolerate disrespect either "
- Me
I think I'm too nice when it comes to setting boundaries. And it's really understandable cause of the way that I'm buit. But. I think it's high time that I make people stand on it.
You cant demand respect from people. Even if theyre forced in a position to show respect it wont be genuine and lead to problems in the future. You have to show reapect to be worthy of receiving it.
@Umile if you think someone doesnt deserve your respect its because they havent earned it yet. Maybe for good reason.
If you find it hard to respect people maybe its because you have been hurt in the past so your less likley to trust making it harder for people to have a chance to earn it.
Maybe you dont tolerate disrespect because your tired of loosing respect.
If you judge everyone the same the cycle will always continue. Maybe change the type of people you surround yourself with. There are worthy people out there somewhere. If you close off completely you might never find them.
I meet others energy and input. I respect others in general unless they prove they are not deserving. I respect their feelings, their beliefs, their opinions.
Honestly both. I demand it when my ego is controlling. When I’m strong enough without my ego it is drawn towards my behavior as real honest behavior defines respect towards others thus respect is reciprocated.
I firmly believe respect being earned and not given. Courtesy is a different thing altogether. Saying "please"; "thank you" or "excuse me" if you need to pass someone or "sorry" for something is not putting yourself down. I must be getting old. I'm getting pissed off by the lack of courtesy I encounter on a daily basis. I hardly ever see or hear [b]anyone [/b](and it doesn't matter which age group they are, use any manners. I'm getting to the point where I am thinking "f*** it, why should I?" I'm convinced people think courtesy is when women do that bobbing up and down to the monarch.
In many settings I just keep to myself. Even if people talk to me, I keep it polite then move on. I don't give them the chance to push my boundaries.
All I can do is be a Mom. I don't have patience to earn people's respect. People are either respectful, like humans can be, or they're disrespectful. I have no ambition to change their minds.
@Umile I need it straight. People tend to play games and manipulate. I think it's just human nature. I don't want to fall for somebody's bull crap though. I can feel their expectations and hesitations and at this point in my life I can't handle it.
I don't think I demand anything from anyone.. But I will speak up if I feel disrespected (sometimes it might take some time to realize because I always want to see the best in people..).
I don't demand respect. I am who I am. I probably have more respect than I deserver, and I let people know that I appreciate their respect and will try to live up to their expectations.
If you have earned true respect from yourself respect from others is only spontaneous. In such case when others disrespects you it only bounce back to themselves This is the law of nature 😉.
I start with basic human respect for others; it’s my default. They don’t have to earn it, but their own behavior determines whether or not they keep it.