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Should I give this guy a chance?

I am casually friendly and thoughtful to everyone. Then there was this guy I met on Facebook and chat me. I don't want to sugar coat, so I sent him my real photo without any filter. He told me "you look 30 (old) and stressed". I was shock because he is the only person who told me that. Not to brag, I was praised with my colleagues and friends for looking young for my age.

He calls everyday and I just pick it up like a friend. Then he told me he wants to meet me on Sunday. I think he only wants to see how I look like in personbecause he saw my other photos on Instagram and liked it.

I told not to start anything between us if I am not the one he is looking for. But he is insisting that he feels great with me.

Was it just my pride that I don't want him to think "I lowered my standard because I feel safe with you"?

What should be my expectations on this date?
JustBeing
26-30, F
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WillaKissing · 56-60, M
Don't worry about his standards, but focus on the standards of a man that you have set in your heart and are looking for. Make him prove to you that he is worth your time and energy, worth being in your company and presence. If he does not treat you like a lady and does not honor you then he is not the one.

This is what I told my very own daughter now 24 years old and she has a great boyfriend of five years now, and her only boyfriend she has ever had.
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MellyMel22 · F
If he was insulting you that early before you even met, imagine what he’s capable of later. I know it doesn’t sound that bad, but coming from someone who has dealt w/a lot of mental/emotional abuse, it feels like a red flag. I can be wrong, but that’s just my opinion. You can be beautiful to him in person, but that won’t change who he is.
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4meAndyou · F
There are SOME men out there who USE initial insults with women to put them on their back foot. It's a psychological manipulation. They believe that by insulting or criticizing, the woman will then need to PROVE to them that she is better than that...MORE beautiful, MORE sexy...whatever.

Just remember you are beautiful, and you don't need to PROVE anything to anyone.
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HisHeelsHerHeart · 36-40, CVIP
I agree 100% what @WillaKissing says.

You can't worry about standards. To me living up to standards sounds like you're living in the 1700s/1800s lifestyles.

You sound like a modern woman, so be a modern woman and not worry about standards
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Neoerectus · M
Do casual stuff in public for a few dates in different situations... meal, movie, some activity, etc. Have fun in joint activities.

Real intentions can reveal themselves. Never get to intimate too soon.

My observation is intimate situations tend to "set the concrete" - ie limits the true emotional intimacy - if sex comes too soon in a relationship.
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hipanonymous
What kind of person makes a negative comment after you send them a picture of yourself? Do you want a guy with no filter, and who has no regard for your feelings? If that really doesn't bother you, then give him a shot, but some first impressions tell you all you need to know.
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bijouxbroussard · F
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Kiesel · 56-60, M
Two things here imo
The “stressed” comment is certainly odd to me..
If you do ever have a face to face date, it needs to be in public and with people around
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11knaves11 · 46-50, M
Be open to the situation. Relax yourself and have positive potential on your mind
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Levenrack · 46-50, M
Yes be open minded, but NEVER put yourself in a position to "just settle", cause then resentment will start being at the forefront of every interaction, from that moment and beyond.
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GohantheThird · M
It's a first date. Way too soon to decide anything just yet.
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Ferric67 · M
Take it as it comes

Expectations only lead to the possibility of disappointment
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Northwest · M
He’s a control freak, using a tactic that will put him in charge, if you take the bait. If you do, you will become an accessy
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