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The problem with blocking is it’s final. There’s no chance to sort out a misunderstanding.

A guy I met here yesterday spoke to me for a few hours in conversation that was positive and friendly without falling into the usual private questions. I thought here’s someone worth staying in contact with.

Today he has sent me one word, “goodbye” and then blocked me.😕

I can’t ask why I’ve been blocked or resolve any misunderstanding. It’s a shame.

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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

He jizzed and left.

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Gr8Guy1979 · 41-45, M

@Mellowgirl Thank you so much for sharing and I also know that there is still good people I give people the benefit of the doubt women can do that too it actually happened to me but I had to move on and forgive it was hard cause my heart opened up but like I said there’s still good out there I don’t feel bad because I know I did not cross the line with her

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Gr8Guy1979 I personally don't think finding someone online is feasible.
Not unless you both lead lives that either allow regular travel or you can afford to up and leave to move to where the other lives.

Unless you only want the online fakeship!

Each to their own.
It's a learning process.

Gr8Guy1979 · 41-45, M

@Mellowgirl I respect your point of view !!!! Mine is I have no strangers in my life just people I have not meet yet that’s my modo lol not everyone is fake yes to good to be true yes but I have meet some solid people that I still talk to after 10 years and never once crossed the line tag your it!! Lol

helenS · 36-40, F

Maybe you are taking things too seriously. Nothing is serious on SW. 😑

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Gr8Guy1979 · 41-45, M

@helenS you can say that again… 😂

helenS · 36-40, F

@Gr8Guy1979 Nothing is serious on SW. 😑

Gr8Guy1979 · 41-45, M

@helenS oh wow lol!!!!! Hope you are good tonight my friend!!! And thank you made me 😂

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

This place is like a rapid dating site. If you’re not sexting by page 2 or day 2 people will move on.

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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Keepitsimple yes, that’s exactly what they are doing. Why can’t people just not be weird and creepy.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

@iamonfire696 Because it’s safe to cut to the chase and be a perv cause nobody sees you.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Keepitsimple yes that’s true. I don’t have time for men like that.

LadyJ · F

You can't fix stupid!..see it as a lucky escape

Gr8Guy1979 · 41-45, M

Amen @LadyJ

PatKirby · M

Either you said something he didn't like (to either him or someone else) and didn't bother to follow through with you, or it was the internet version of a one night stand. Don't sweat the small stuff.

nedkelly · 61-69, M

May be he was wanting some naked photos, if they block no loss as you will never understand why

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

You probably didn’t get to where he wanted to be quick enough. He wanted to wank and you wanted to talk. Men here don’t want to talk.

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Mindfulness

@Keepitsimple really? You're not a 60 year old bloke are you? 🤣🤣

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

@Mindfulness All man. People have seen me. They’ll tell you.

Mindfulness

@Keepitsimple I've DM'd you. 🤦‍♂️ I'm so naive!

PhoenixPhail · M

That's the problem I have with it, too.

I think there should be allowed one message from the blocked, giving them a chance to ask why.

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

@PhoenixPhail You could ask someone else to pass on a message.

PhoenixPhail · M

@ninalanyon Yes, I've done that before. It worked once.

Oster1 · M

Especially someone you were really sweet too and cared about.

Unfortunately, some are just not able to express themselves and I am the opposite. I never block or mute. I would rather talk it out.

SW-User

@Oster1 That's very mature of you..some aren't emotionally mature enough to.do this

Oster1 · M

@SW-User This is so true. I have been given a gift of acute senses, feelings and emotions. Expressing myself just comes naturally to me. I want to express my feelings because it feels so good and liberating.

Although I was immensely surprised, I do not harbor any ill feelings. I only wish that there was a chance to talk about it.

I believe the problem lies in that with social media, we do not see facial expressions, body language, voice and just looking into someone’s eyes.

It’s easy to misinterpret even one word. Thank you, for your very kind words. I hope you are having a very lovely weekend!🎃🌹

Disney

I understand 100%. Sometimes it bothers me also someone blocked me because I haven't attacked anyone on here and never meant to hurt anyone's feelings. But to be honest we're better off when idiots don't want us to see them or their stupid thoughts.

Someone posted something about rape not being funny, but I think memes making fun of Bill Cosby are funny.

She didn't think the meme I shared was funny, so I apologized and deleted it. She blocked me anyway. Well, I turned around and blocked her so if she decides to unblock me later ... as the old saying goes, 'Fuck her'

Oster1 · M

Exactly. What should have been talked out, is taken away in a fit of anger. Not all cases but it shows a lack of civility, IMO.

TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 41-45, MVIP

What a weirdo

AdaXI · 41-45, T

We've all had such people come along before, wasting our time, messing with our heads and stuff. I know what mean though is annoying you can't ask what the problem is.
乂º︵º乂

SW-User

I completely understand how that feels that’s happened to me twice last week

PhoenixPhail · M

@SW-User It happened to me twice last week, too.
Nice, innocent, light conversations. Blocked!
What's with these people? 😳

Carissimi · 70-79, F

You can have a good conversation, and like the person, then come across some of their interactions with others, or their posts, and realize they are not who you thought they were. If they make you cringe or repulse you, then you want nothing more to do with them. @PhoenixPhail

SW-User

That's kind of the point..people who do this are avoidant

PatKirby · M

@SW-User

Correct. However once in a while I grant clemency and release one or two out of their cages, just because.

SW-User

@PatKirby how Nobel of you

TheotherAndy · 41-45, M

I've had pretty much the exact same scenario happen. It's a crappy feeling

WhateverWorks · 36-40

From what I can tell, this is a good place for conversation in passing and putting whatever is on your mind into the ether, but if you’re pining for long-term, meaningful connection, that’s not what a lot of people are looking for here. Even the desire to work out a misunderstanding is more emotional investment/stress than this place exists for.

Fluffybull · F

I wouldn't waste time on trying to analyse this.

river52 · 70-79, M

something isn't right....and it is not you

Jonjdw · 46-50, M

I know. I have not blocked anyone.

DaveyWavey01 · M

I'm sure it's his loss

PhaqueYou · M

It happens.

thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

I get that and appreciate your words.

I don't know what to say about this place that way. I have mostly just learned to live with it, value what connection I have found, and when I need a break, leave.

markansas

my thought is i try not to block any one . however i did to two people here one who wanted to know about my sex life . and that is private and told him so and he did not stop . and the other sent me a dic pic. and i am not gay. i dont think i would have blocked a woman on her sending me a pic of herself. buy i might not respond. to me sex is private and should be between the two people. in messages and not in a open forum.
so if that helps and i hope it does . you can talk to me. ok.grin
[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qeMFqkcPYcg]
and being we live in different countries I should be safe to talk too

SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M

Welcome to SW!

First time this has happened?

Don't take it too personal it happens a lot here.

Focus on those who do want to talk to you.

MissNoahLenFoxx · 31-35, F

Dont take it so personally and don’t be so desperate for answers. In this life, a lot of things don’t have answers or resolutions. Things end. People change. And you know what, life moves on….Besides you don’t want someone with opinions that change on a whim in your inner circle! You need people who are consistent. Who are supportive of You. Who won’t flake as soon as the wind blows!… They’re out there. Move on and find ‘em. They will need you as much as you need them!

EuphoricTurtle · 41-45, M

If their initial reaction is to block you, then it shows they are probably more interested in self-righteous indignation (and rightly so in their head) than in actually sorting things out.

Also....it's not really a shame. Chances are that self-righteous indignation would come up regularly. It mostly likely get old really fast. They did you a favour.

Pretzel · 61-69, M

people are strange

Jabulani

weird people

SW-User

I know what you mean. I've had more misunderstandings since joining SW than in all 24 years of being on various forums combined. I'm trying to trust that every time this happens, it's for a good reason.

PepsiColaP

Report him back

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PepsiColaP

@CakeByTheOcean he could be a cold spy

Jabulani

@CakeByTheOcean i referred to this

CakeByTheOcean · 26-30, F

@Jabulani I’m not concerned.

mrh1972 · MVIP

Happened to me a couple of years ago in real life, she just cut me off because i texted her whilst drunk telling her i loved her. It was a text so she couldnt hear the context.

TurtlePink · 22-25, F

Jerk

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

If it's one thing I have noticed in the bizarro SW world, it's that some people here are either so narcissistic or so controlling that if you say *one* word that they don't like, instead of a healthy debate or agreeing to disagree, they just BLOCK, which to me is fine. I liken it to the trash taking itself out.