I just read an article saying single women are way happier than married women. Once women get married their happiness greatly declines because they
Wind up doing all the work in the relationship and feel like slaves. This was written by divorced women who are enjoying single life. Any thoughts or opinions?
Yeah I do the cooking and cleaning. But he fixes stuff, snow blows the driveway, mows the lawn, changes the cat litter, takes the garbage out. And bear hugs me when I'm feeling down.
If that were true, so many single women would not fret about meeting someone and having a relationship. I think the grass always looks greener from the other side.
One article written by obviously biased divorced women doesn't mean much. There are plenty of happily married men and women, who communicate with each other like adults and share the responsibilities.
So I digged in and checked the numbers and the articles. It seems that statistically married women who have children actually report being happiest most in the US.
The blogs you're referring to are more of personal experiences of the author.
Like many pointed out, I think people can actually find contentment regardless of their marital status. Contentment is about mastering your own mind and happiness instead of attaching it to what you have or what you don't. I was very content single. And I am very very content now being in a committed relationship.
Eh, think single women have their own obstacles and sleepless nights filled with worries where their happiness comes into question. Being free to live life as you see fit can actually be quite lonely some nights at 3am. And I think many women who enter marriage end up feeling like a slave to the role of wife because they lose sight of who they are…and possibly who they still aspire to be. A lot of attention could be placed on their partner’s happiness instead of maintaining and pursuing their own. Really don’t think happiness reigns in one category versus another. I think it’s specific to each individual depending on their own definition of what happiness is.
I doubt that all women feel like slaves. I think in this day and age men do their part around the house and with the children as well. Of course if the article was written by divorced women, of course their view on marriage would be subjective.
When I was married, I did the cooking, most of the cleaning, a lot of laundry and all of the ironing, all of the yardwork, all vehicle and home maintenance, took care of the dogs, took care of my daughter most of the time including the 2am feeding. All while holding down a full time job..... while she spent her time going to flea markets with her mother, drinking beer, and having s3x with the unemployed alcoholic who lived with his mommy down the street.
I think that's a crock , I know in my marriage I did half the housework , took equal responsibility and time spent with my daughter, even more so. Cooked over half the meals we ate as well as all the yard work and upkeep.on the house as well as all the maintenance and mechanical work on our cars. Always worked at least 40 hr weeks and often times 50 more. Always honestly complemented her on her appearance, always made sure she got off before I did when we had sex, and suffered through her story of her entire day at work and seldom brought my work home. We went on vacations almost every year all over to Hawaii several times, several resorts in Mexico , California, Disneyland, SeaWorld, Grand canyon, Yellowstone and on and on And I did that for over 15 yrs. And she was still unhappy.
@Cloud7593 Yeah that's pretty much what it came down to, cost me 17 yrs of my life .But I got an amazing daughter and two awesome grandkids out of it so it was worth it in the long run.
I wouldn't say I felt like a slave but it is a fact that women still end up doing the majority of the housework even if both work full time. I also miss not getting as much "alone time" as I did when I was single.
@Spoiledbrat It can be it takes two working at it to make it work. but it has a lot of benefits also. It's nice to have someone to do things with. It's nice to have a warm body next to.you on a cold night. Nice to have two incomes. Nice to be the king of your court, nice to have someone to be there in the good times and the rough times dealing with tragedy and death.
But it's nice to be alone also. You can do whatever you want when ever. You don't have to get approval for major purchases. You can make your own schedule. Can eat whatever your in the mood for. Dinner for one is cheaper than dinner for two. If you meet someone and hit it off , your free to do as you wish. There are pros and cons to everything.
If they're choosing to be with someone who is horrible, I can see why being single would be better. I'd rather be single too instead of being with someone who isn't good
I would take that with a grain of salt. If they’re presenting their narrow view like it must apply to all, it seems more likely to me that their marriage may have failed due to their own shortcomings.
Once they get divorced, they take on the added responsibility to fix the house, fix the cars, mow the grass, plus all the other things they had to do before. How is that any better? If you marry a lazy beer swilling baseball watcher.. well that mistake you own yourself. Find a partner, not a liability.
A deeper look into this subject comes from the General Social Survey (GSS), a national survey that includes family satisfaction. Its 2022 survey revealed that marriage and family are strongly associated with happiness for both men and women. The GSS results showed that for women 18-55, married women were happier than unmarried women. While the majority were “pretty happy,” the difference for “very happy” women was dramatic: “40 percent of married women with children were very happy, compared to 25 percent of married childless women, 22 percent of unmarried childless women, and 17 percent of unmarried women with children.” Regarding men, the survey found that 35 percent of married men with children are “very happy,” compared to 30 percent of married men without children, 14 percent of unmarried men without children, and 12 percent of unmarried men with children.
I hear married women complain about their spouse, often. comments, such as “I would never get married again so I might as well keep this one or “at least I’m used to him”things like that. I go on and on about being happy since my divorce and being single. They seem to get a little jealous. Happiness is a choice so no matter though.
@Bluebirdsonmyshoulder Plus married women need to stick up for themselves more in a lot of cases. Stop waiting on the man hand and foot, at least if she is also working.
Single women do enjoy but at one point they get bored of their life being vagabond. So marriage gives them a boundary, responsibility and purpose. But when it gets mundane, they think singles are enjoying and free
It's like the life of students vs life after employment.
@Cloud7593🤔yes even men can understand how for women once they are marrid the ball games changes for them drastically . suddenly there world changes no more carefree responsibilities ensue some cope with it and deal with it some unforetunetly struggle with the idea😣
I am guessing you would see the same results if you polled men! When your single man or woman its all about you after married you have to put self to the side to help someone else it takes work and adjustments .
@Cloud7593 they're the type of people who always kiss someone's butt however instead of trying to just gain general good standing with a person it's usually men trying to garner female favor