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I just read an article saying single women are way happier than married women. Once women get married their happiness greatly declines because they

Wind up doing all the work in the relationship and feel like slaves. This was written by divorced women who are enjoying single life. Any thoughts or opinions?

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Lilymoon · F

Yeah I do the cooking and cleaning.
But he fixes stuff, snow blows the driveway, mows the lawn, changes the cat litter, takes the garbage out. And bear hugs me when I'm feeling down.

Cloud7593 · 46-50, F

@Lilymoon Sounds like a good one!

Midlifemale · 61-69, M

@Lilymoon that's the average happy marriage. Most single men and women prefer to be married.

thinkingoutloud · F

If that were true, so many single women would not fret about meeting someone and having a relationship.
I think the grass always looks greener from the other side.

AbbeyRhode · F

One article written by obviously biased divorced women doesn't mean much. There are plenty of happily married men and women, who communicate with each other like adults and share the responsibilities.

Miram · 31-35, F

So I digged in and checked the numbers and the articles. It seems that statistically married women who have children actually report being happiest most in the US.

The blogs you're referring to are more of personal experiences of the author.

Like many pointed out, I think people can actually find contentment regardless of their marital status. Contentment is about mastering your own mind and happiness instead of attaching it to what you have or what you don't. I was very content single. And I am very very content now being in a committed relationship.

Adogslife · 61-69, M

@Miram Your perception of contentment is fabulous. It’s so true. 💯👏🏻

MyNameIsHurl · 41-45, F

being single means doing all the work without the cuddles 🥺

sben4200 · 51-55, M

@MyNameIsHurl Perfectly said.

Elisbch · M

@MyNameIsHurl .. I agree partly.
Either (gender) can be married, either can do all the work.... and still not get the cuddles. (btdt)

CookieCrumbs · F

The question is : what is happiness for them? Freedom to do whatever they want without considering somebody else?

If that is what happiness if for the married woman, she will definitely be unhappy.

If that is happiness for the single woman, then their whole life should be a bliss. No need to join a dating site or find any partner.

Yet, they both look for what they don't have. And that's where the disappointment with life begins.

The grass is greener where you water it.

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Slade · 56-60, M

@CookieCrumbs or pee on it

CookieCrumbs · F

@Cloud7593
Why do they choose to stay?

Spoiledbrat · F

I think a lot of young people don't know themselves before they get married. @CookieCrumbs

BizSuitStacy · M

Over generalization. There are lots of happily married couples, too.

PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F

Eh, think single women have their own obstacles and sleepless nights filled with worries where their happiness comes into question. Being free to live life as you see fit can actually be quite lonely some nights at 3am. And I think many women who enter marriage end up feeling like a slave to the role of wife because they lose sight of who they are…and possibly who they still aspire to be. A lot of attention could be placed on their partner’s happiness instead of maintaining and pursuing their own. Really don’t think happiness reigns in one category versus another. I think it’s specific to each individual depending on their own definition of what happiness is.

Fluffybull · F

@PerfectionOfTheHeart 👏👏👌

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

I doubt that all women feel like slaves. I think in this day and age men do their part around the house and with the children as well. Of course if the article was written by divorced women, of course their view on marriage would be subjective.

Cloud7593 · 46-50, F

@JimboSaturn true

NoThanksLeon · M

When I was married, I did the cooking, most of the cleaning, a lot of laundry and all of the ironing, all of the yardwork, all vehicle and home maintenance, took care of the dogs, took care of my daughter most of the time including the 2am feeding. All while holding down a full time job..... while she spent her time going to flea markets with her mother, drinking beer, and having s3x with the unemployed alcoholic who lived with his mommy down the street.

Maybe I should write an article.

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NoThanksLeon · M

@Cloud7593 Well, it's not like I was not at fault. My mother warned me over and over and over again, but I didn't listen.

Cloud7593 · 46-50, F

@NoThanksLeon warned you she was no good?

NoThanksLeon · M

@Cloud7593 Yes

DrWatson · 70-79, M

goodlil666 · 51-55, M

I think that's a crock , I know in my marriage I did half the housework , took equal responsibility and time spent with my daughter, even more so. Cooked over half the meals we ate as well as all the yard work and upkeep.on the house as well as all the maintenance and mechanical work on our cars. Always worked at least 40 hr weeks and often times 50 more. Always honestly complemented her on her appearance, always made sure she got off before I did when we had sex, and suffered through her story of her entire day at work and seldom brought my work home. We went on vacations almost every year all over to Hawaii several times, several resorts in Mexico , California, Disneyland, SeaWorld, Grand canyon, Yellowstone and on and on And I did that for over 15 yrs. And she was still unhappy.

Cloud7593 · 46-50, F

@goodlil666 She might have been just a malcontent, never happy no matter what.

goodlil666 · 51-55, M

@Cloud7593 Yeah that's pretty much what it came down to, cost me 17 yrs of my life .But I got an amazing daughter and two awesome grandkids out of it so it was worth it in the long run.

Spoiledbrat · F

I think being married is hard. @goodlil666

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Fluffybull · F

I wouldn't say I felt like a slave but it is a fact that women still end up doing the majority of the housework even if both work full time. I also miss not getting as much "alone time" as I did when I was single.

goodlil666 · 51-55, M

@Spoiledbrat It can be it takes two working at it to make it work. but it has a lot of benefits also. It's nice to have someone to do things with. It's nice to have a warm body next to.you on a cold night. Nice to have two incomes. Nice to be the king of your court, nice to have someone to be there in the good times and the rough times dealing with tragedy and death.

But it's nice to be alone also. You can do whatever you want when ever. You don't have to get approval for major purchases. You can make your own schedule. Can eat whatever your in the mood for. Dinner for one is cheaper than dinner for two. If you meet someone and hit it off , your free to do as you wish.
There are pros and cons to everything.

deadgerbil · 22-25, F

If they're choosing to be with someone who is horrible, I can see why being single would be better. I'd rather be single too instead of being with someone who isn't good

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

@deadgerbil Yes I would rather be single than in an unhappy relationship.

Madmonk · M

Everyone always says this. Men and women. Fact of the matter is we need each other. It’s an inconvenience truth.

JustNik · 51-55, F

I would take that with a grain of salt. If they’re presenting their narrow view like it must apply to all, it seems more likely to me that their marriage may have failed due to their own shortcomings.

Midlifemale · 61-69, M

@JustNik agree. That articlej was by DIVORCED women

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I think women in a relationship but living alone are the happiest.

Cloud7593 · 46-50, F

@CrazyMusicLover Yes that is a good situation ☺️

Fluffybull · F

@CrazyMusicLover Agree! Best of both worlds! Someone who is there for you but your own space 🤗

JamesBugman · 56-60, T

Once they get divorced, they take on the added responsibility to fix the house, fix the cars, mow the grass, plus all the other things they had to do before. How is that any better? If you marry a lazy beer swilling baseball watcher.. well that mistake you own yourself. Find a partner, not a liability.

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bijouxbroussard · F

@JimboSaturn Alas, they don’t wear signs. Folks are generally on best behavior when dating. Though admittedly some women do ignore obvious red flags.

ElwoodBlues · M

I just read a survey reporting the opposite.

A deeper look into this subject comes from the General Social Survey (GSS), a national survey that includes family satisfaction. Its 2022 survey revealed that marriage and family are strongly associated with happiness for both men and women. The GSS results showed that for women 18-55, married women were happier than unmarried women. While the majority were “pretty happy,” the difference for “very happy” women was dramatic: “40 percent of married women with children were very happy, compared to 25 percent of married childless women, 22 percent of unmarried childless women, and 17 percent of unmarried women with children.” Regarding men, the survey found that 35 percent of married men with children are “very happy,” compared to 30 percent of married men without children, 14 percent of unmarried men without children, and 12 percent of unmarried men with children.

Cloud7593 · 46-50, F

@ElwoodBlues Interesting that both single and married women with no kids have the same level of happiness.

Bluebirdsonmyshoulder · 46-50, F

I hear married women complain about their spouse, often. comments, such as “I would never get married again so I might as well keep this one or “at least I’m used to him”things like that. I go on and on about being happy since my divorce and being single. They seem to get a little jealous. Happiness is a choice so no matter though.

Cloud7593 · 46-50, F

@Bluebirdsonmyshoulder Plus married women need to stick up for themselves more in a lot of cases. Stop waiting on the man hand and foot, at least if she is also working.

twistedrope · 26-30, M

I wouldn't trust those articles so much. Love is too complex to be gridded. Otherwise, we as a species would have mastered it already.

If you want to be happy, fight for it. Happiness has to be fought for!

bijouxbroussard · F

@twistedrope Who or what is one fighting against ?

twistedrope · 26-30, M

@bijouxbroussard The natural desire to do nothing and blame everyone and lash out at the slightest bit of discomfort. Also bad parenting.

Wiseacre · F

O, I believe it. .

Dolimyte · 41-45, M

That's a pretty biased source. All those women can say is that they are happier being single. To extend that to all women would be foolish.

AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

Every divorced woman over 40 was married to a narcissist. I know this bc that’s what they all say . Lol

Madmonk · M

@AthrillatheHunt a controlling narcissist

Spoiledbrat · F

I don't know, I kind of like having a companion. I think sometimes, I'm glad I made it this far.

ABCDEF7 · M

"Doing what you love is freedom, loving what you do is happiness." - Lana Del Rey.

Choice is yours..

lonelyloner · 31-35, F

don't know happier or not but am always feel comfort and free spirit as a single

BeJeweled · F

I have a friend who plans on leaving her husbsnd because he is too controlling. 😞

KarenKC · 56-60, F

Only about a third of people get married in my area these days.

in10RjFox · M

What applies here is

The other side grass is always greener

Single women do enjoy but at one point they get bored of their life being vagabond. So marriage gives them a boundary, responsibility and purpose. But when it gets mundane, they think singles are enjoying and free

It's like the life of students vs life after employment.

ArtieKat · M

Probably true in the majority of cases.

SomeMichGuy · M

I need to respond later, but it seems a tad off

smiler2012 · 56-60

@Cloud7593🤔yes even men can understand how for women once they are marrid the ball games changes for them drastically . suddenly there world changes no more carefree responsibilities ensue some cope with it and deal with it some unforetunetly struggle with the idea😣

Colonelmustardseed · 36-40

I don’t think it’s the whole story.

Spoiledbrat · F

I'm sure men feel similar.

SW-User

‘Married men live longer than their bachelor friends. But do not live as long as their wives, because they do not want to.’

Dr John Cooper Clarke, Britain’s leading poet.

bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User On my maternal side, the women seem to go first.

SW-User

@bijouxbroussard Clearly chosen the wrong men!

bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User They had long, happy marriages. The women just went first. My mother and father were very happy for 65 years, and we still miss her. 😞

2ndtimeguy · 61-69, M

I am guessing you would see the same results if you polled men! When your single man or woman its all about you after married you have to put self to the side to help someone else it takes work and adjustments .

KarenKC · 56-60, F

@2ndtimeguy ?

Elisbch · M

I think that's an excellent idea, then men won't feel pressured to get married and overall decline as well. Maybe we'll even get to live longer! 😁👍🏻

hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M

On the sixth day God created man. On the seventh day God rested. On the eighth day God created woman and no one has rested since.

sylvsn59 · 61-69, M

I suppose if your pool is divorced women then you re not gonna get a whole bunch of happy lasses.

Convivial · 26-30, F

It often happens, wrong guy and wrong attitudes... It's either an equal partnership or not

Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M

Having simps will tend to make you think that way

Cloud7593 · 46-50, F

@Jackaloftheazuresand What are simps?

Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M

@Cloud7593 they're the type of people who always kiss someone's butt however instead of trying to just gain general good standing with a person it's usually men trying to garner female favor