How many times have you rebuilt yourself?
I feel like this is more common than people think. For people to be so destroyed and have to pick up the pieces of themselves, and having to create something completely new.
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syfy86 · 46-50, M
More times than I can count.
I think this is the case for most people.
I think there's a myth being sold, unfortunately, that our lives should be easy. That others have it very easy, and ours should be also. Life has ups and downs, challenges and wondrous moments. It's incredible to have friends and partners to help us through the journey ... and equally great to have the individual constitution to weather the storms alone.
I love that you use the word "create," because that's what we do. We survive, adapt, and create something new. Fortunately what we create is usually stronger, and wiser - which we can then share with others.
I think this is the case for most people.
I think there's a myth being sold, unfortunately, that our lives should be easy. That others have it very easy, and ours should be also. Life has ups and downs, challenges and wondrous moments. It's incredible to have friends and partners to help us through the journey ... and equally great to have the individual constitution to weather the storms alone.
I love that you use the word "create," because that's what we do. We survive, adapt, and create something new. Fortunately what we create is usually stronger, and wiser - which we can then share with others.
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ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F
@syfy86 That’s beautiful. Well stated
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major adjusting, several times in my youth. At 14, 16, 17, 18.
Failed Grade Five Piano at 14. Gave up. Very silly.
Failed English Language O Level at 16. So could not be a Lawyer. Adjusted by read, read, read. High Grade at Xmas in retake. But as a scientist.
Betrayed the first time by a gf at seventeen. Took it badly. You get used to that and harden. Women, like men, can be very cruel. Not all though.
Broke two front teeth at University, going to a lecture at eighteen in the snow. So they are capped and my clarinet playing came to an end, after seven years.
I thought my creativity had ended. But unexpectedly no. I’m an Artist!
Rebuilding: twice . At 40 and 22.
At 22, after a two year relationship, was engaged. I tarried too long that time.
At 40 after thirteen years as a carer. That was like re thawing in a world that had moved on. This time I reinvented myself quickly, as I had no house, no money, no children. Radically remodelled my career, but as for women, made the same old mistakes, men do. One adopted son whom I’m close to.
Found someone else though, what joy. Quite unexpectedly too.
Failed Grade Five Piano at 14. Gave up. Very silly.
Failed English Language O Level at 16. So could not be a Lawyer. Adjusted by read, read, read. High Grade at Xmas in retake. But as a scientist.
Betrayed the first time by a gf at seventeen. Took it badly. You get used to that and harden. Women, like men, can be very cruel. Not all though.
Broke two front teeth at University, going to a lecture at eighteen in the snow. So they are capped and my clarinet playing came to an end, after seven years.
I thought my creativity had ended. But unexpectedly no. I’m an Artist!
Rebuilding: twice . At 40 and 22.
At 22, after a two year relationship, was engaged. I tarried too long that time.
At 40 after thirteen years as a carer. That was like re thawing in a world that had moved on. This time I reinvented myself quickly, as I had no house, no money, no children. Radically remodelled my career, but as for women, made the same old mistakes, men do. One adopted son whom I’m close to.
Found someone else though, what joy. Quite unexpectedly too.
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
@SW-User Indeed I will. It’s not in me to give up.
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@blackarcher256 yes, you will have seen I’ve had to work through several things. The best way is to cut your losses and move on. Hard that it is at the time.
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
@SW-User Respect to you for working through it and coming out okay on the other side!
It’s been a hard lonely road for me. But each day is a little brighter. So I keep moving forward.
It’s been a hard lonely road for me. But each day is a little brighter. So I keep moving forward.
Lostpoet · M
I think this can be a good thing the only problem is people get tired of trying to pick themselves up and they stay at the bottom. You see these people when you walk down the street they are the grown men and women that carry back packs and have more than one plastic bag in their hands.
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ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F
Rebuilt? A few times, but I’ve grown and changed many times throughout my life. It’s what you do as you live and learn and have experiences. To remain stagnant, at least for me, isn’t living. The times I rebuilt from the ground up, I built upon my core, my values, my foundation. I like that word, ”creation.” Yes, I created a new / the next version of myself.
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@DearAmbellina2113 Leo too
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RVLPreborn · M
@looping sometimes you take twenty steps backwards before you become ready to actually go where you want. I don't guarantee a reprieve or that there will ever be easy days, but I do know that one day your spirit will be stronger than any obstacle ahead of it. And only then will it all make sense. Whatever sense that is.
Just two cents from a person who was in a spiral for the longest
Just two cents from a person who was in a spiral for the longest
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RVLPreborn · M
@PepsiColaP Why so
@RVLPreborn rebuilding yourself implies having been destructed beforehand. That is a very dramatic thing for anyone to experience. And there is enough of it without our personal interference ,so i think as I grow older I want to make choices that lessen the probability of such outcomes . The idea of rebuilding something seems romantic in that it is an act of strength and preservation but continuously having to rebuilt oneself seems ,to me at least,exhausting and honestly an act of diminishing returns
RVLPreborn · M
@PepsiColaP incredibly wise words. thank you for them
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@DeluxedEdition hey it's nice seeing you again, dear ❤️
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RVLPreborn · M
@wackidywack facts tho