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My son is currently living with us in a very small flat with his gf, baby and dog. The dog has become very aggressive with me. He bites me every time i go into the kitchen. I thought the problem was him being inside all the time in a very small space. Taking him out more hasnt helped. He is only aggressive to me. I have always been very kind to him, let him sleep in my bed when they are away, give him treats, never ever raised a hand to him or even my voice. Today he has hurt me badly, he bit my hand and i am now unable to move it. He is a big dog of mixed breeds and is not neutered which he should be. Any advice on this would help.
Get rid of the dog immediately and permanently. Get tested for rabies.
Take a look at Cesar Milan's YouTubes on aggressive dogs.
You [i][b]can[/b][/i] overcome this problem.
msros · F
Dogs are very unpredictable and you dont know they behave at any time. So many children and people have been mauled by dogs even without cause.
Jojo72 · 46-50, F
@msros In most cases there is a traceable cause, but in this case I dont know why. I've always been gentle and loving with him. I'm just baffled.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Get yourself seen by a medic ASAP !
Just to be sure you haven't been infected by anything the dog may have !

Other than kicking the dog and as a consequence probably it's owner out the only other thing you could do is muzzle it.

If the bite broke the skin you need advice from both a medic and a vet.
It's often thought that once an animal gets the taste for blood the next one could be a mauling !!!
Jojo72 · 46-50, F
@Picklebobble2 I have asked them to remove the dog by Wednesday. She is still expecting me to look after the dog tomorrow when they will be away overnight. I've never harmed an animal in my life, but i tried using a rolled up newspaper, hit it against my leg hoping the sound would scare him, he just became more aggressive. Luckily he hasnt broken the skin, but the hand is very swollen, if its no better by the morning i will go to a&e. Its so beyond me, animals have always been drawn to me and im very gentle with them. This is the first animal who has been aggressive. The first time they lived here he wasnt aggressive at all. He needs a new, stable home where he has space to run. I grew up with bullterriers and pits and never ever saw any of them become aggressive to anyone, our cat was more aggressive than they were and he was the most chilled cat in the world.
Maybe carrying a small spray bottle of lemon juice could help. Every time the dog gets aggressive with you, spray that in his eyes. It won't hurt him, but it would certainly sting and let him know to back off.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
The problem is not that you need to be kinder, it's that you need to show who's boss. Don't let him go whatever he wants, don't let him sleep in your bed , don't let him guard the kitchen.

A dog acts out if they think their leader is too insecure. He needs to be boundaries and discipline, he needs a leader he respects. And he will respect you when you stop fearing him or doubting yourself.

It has to be shown in repeated actions and a calm confident energy.

How do you tell him no? How do you set boundaries?
What plans with deadlines have you made for them leaving? Do they have any? Can they walk that dog more? He is aggressive because of the crowded quarters. Can any of their friends take the dog in temporarily? He is large. This is dangerous. Get your hand seen by a doctor, please. Can he be tied up outside? Change the circumstances.

Something similar happened to me when I worked and stayed at my son's. His pocket bully started to mature. Got aggressive with me. He was small, but powerful. My son tried to discipline him. The dog was used for breeding so his hormones were crazy. I ended up leaving. It was unsettling and dangerous. His dog even bullied my senior dog.

Please do something before something worse happens. Keep us updated.
@Jojo72 Doesn't matter. That dog is dangerous. He may hurt thr little one. Do you want that on your conscience? So many people have dogs they cannot handle. That is beyond words. You even face eviction! Think, please. You asked for advice. I gave my best. You keep saying but, but. There is no but. This is your life.
Jojo72 · 46-50, F
@elafina unfortunately not, its a very small one bedroom flat, only door apart from my bedroom is the bathroom.
elafina · 36-40, F
@Jojo72 maybe the lack of space made him irritated, along with moving environments and other things. I think the young couple needs to rent their own place if they want to keep the dog. Maybe it's difficult right now but it could be easier in a couple of months. They can find a temporary solution for the dog and once they have their space, get him back..?
in10RjFox · M
What's your son and his gf doing about it ?

Bite his girlfriend's hand to say how the dog bit you.. so they do something about it like buy a dog crate.
Jojo72 · 46-50, F
@PoetryNEmotion Unfortunately they dont have anywhere else to go. They have both just started job training and I could never put my granddaughter on the street, but the dog has to go.
elafina · 36-40, F
@Jojo72 what about an outdoors home for him? Is it very cold where you live ?
@Jojo72 Then you will pay the price. Tell them to go to a shelter. Take the grandaughter in. They take the dog. When push comes to shove, they will find solutions. Do you want to end up worse? Value your life.
Carissimi · 61-69, F
Forget about the “why?” While you are trying to figure that out, you could be mauled. You need to talk with your son immediately after you seek medical care for the bite. This can’t go on. The dog needs to be removed from your home.
Carazaa · F
I would put him on a leash tied to the couch, and feed him there. But continue to give him treats when he is good and say "good dog" when he is nice, and be stern and say [b]"NO" f[/b]irmly when he growls. Also hire a professional trainer to come a few times it won't cost very much. A dog is easily trained. Dogs need daily walks, mental stimulation, play times, cuddle times, and good nutrition (lots of protein).[b] NEVER hit a dog ever![/b]
Carazaa · F
@Jojo72 [quote]I've never harmed an animal in my life, but i tried using a rolled up newspaper, hit it against my leg hoping the sound would scare him, he just became more aggressive.[/quote]
Scaring him is not recommended. scaring him will make a dog more aggressive. And if dogs are not allowed then I would ask if you can keep him, or find a good home for him. The Landlord could evict. You are very kind to your son but I would never break the lease agreement to help someone unless their life was in danger. It is important that you have a good rental history. This is your life and future.
Jojo72 · 46-50, F
@Carazaa Due to conditions in my country, we are a family in crisis, like many other families. We had no other option. And I would never put my son or granddaughter out on the street. Family sticks together, no matter how difficult the situation gets. The good news is that they have found a boarder to house him with until they find a place to live or a new permanent owner for him. They have also agreed to have him fixed as soon as funds become available. He isnt a bad dog at heart.
Carazaa · F
@Jojo72 You're a very kind Mom!🙏
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
My friend's use to have a Chihuahua that would all was bite my ankles when I went over to their house. At the time I got my dog fix for free and I told them about this. Their mom wanted to get a few of her dogs fix. Well one day I went over to see my friends and that little Chihuahua he is biting my ankles and I told him IF U DONT STOP I'LL CUT YOUR BALLS OFF. I guess he understood he did stop for a few months. Then he started again and I was serious I took him in and got him fix. He didn't come close to me again after that.
elafina · 36-40, F
@smileylovesgaming what does it mean to get a dog fix?
@elafina The vet operates on the dog. Makes it impossible for him to be able to breed other dogs. Males with raging hormones cause them to be aggressive and they can attack, run away to breed females, and they can be harder to handle. Neutering males calms them. They may still want to breed if not done when they are young. Females can be spayed rendering them unable to have puppies. Most dogs are operated on at 6 months at earliest. It may also prevent some dog conditions medically as they age.
Convivial · 26-30, F
Move them out .. It's your home and you don't need to be scared in your own home...I think your son is being very irresponsible in his actions
kodiac · 22-25, M
If they don't get rid of it get a shock collar. You will be able to drop it in it's tracks before it has a chance to bite.
kodiac · 22-25, M
@PoetryNEmotion I don't agree with using shock collar but if it's attacking then i would use it to disable the dog. Oddly enough some of the rogue Amish run puppy mills
@kodiac I know. Amish do not value animals as pets like we do. The poster needs to get that dog out of her home. I have given solid advice. Her relatives are not trying hard enough and their dog is dangerous. She either will listen and take action or suffer the consequences. She is an adult.
Jojo72 · 46-50, F
@PoetryNEmotion Why are people so cruel! I'm concerned that he keeps biting me, but I am more concerned about his wellbeing.
JaggedLittlePill · 41-45, F
1. See a doctor about your hand.

2. Get the dog out of the house. He wont remain only aggressive to you and there is a child in the home. Unfortunately, the dog needs to be rehomed and if that cannot happen the dog needs to be euthanized.

3. Do not allow your son and his gf to skirt around this. The dog is a danger to the baby and everyone in the house.
Jojo72 · 46-50, F
@JaggedLittlePill my worry exactly that he will hurt the baby. He has hurt me badly today, he crushed my hand in his jaws. I also worry about being left alone with the dog. I cannot carry on living in fear in my home.
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
So instead of seeking medical attention you come on here to ask advice? 🤔
Yea, seems logical lol.
Jojo72 · 46-50, F
@ravenwind43 the bite hasnt broken the skin, so i think its okay, just sore and bruised. Asking for advice because i dont want the dog to be traumatised or hurt. Its not his fault that he is in this situation, that falls on my sons gf. She is too selfish to rehome the dog. Deadline has been given and either the dog goes tomorrow or they end up homeless.
This is your home, and the presence of this dog is a threat to your [b]tenancy[/b], as well as your personal safety. Let the gf know that if the dog isn’t removed ASAP, animal control with be notified. I don’t know where you live, but here all they need be told to act is that there’s a child and a dog that consistently [b]bites[/b]. This is serious.
Jojo72 · 46-50, F
@bijouxbroussard I have said that the dog has to go by Wednesday, failure to do this will result in me calling animal control where he would most likely be placed in a kill shelter. I dont want this to be the case. He needs to be neutered and rehomed with space to run. He is still a young dog.
@Jojo72 Good, then they understand what is at stake. 🙁

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