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For the men, how do you act when you’ve had a crush on someone at work?

I know, I know, you shouldn’t date coworkers, but the truth is that it happens. Men, how have you acted in the past or how would you act around your work crush?

Ladies you can explain your experiences of how men would act when they were crushing on you in the workplace.
BlueVeins · 22-25
Just friendly, as I am to everyone else. Don't want to risk making someone uncomfortable.
WillaKissing · 56-60
For me I could not ever get passed the regimented work fraternization rules and code of conduct in the Army, so I always kept quiet about the women I had crushes on.

To me it was not worth the scrutiny of the Army in my home personal life. I had to draw a line somewhere a boundary between me and my work and personal life.
twistedrope · 26-30, M
I do one of two things. Either I talk to them and ask about their life, finding out they have a partner then letting my feelings go after a few days.

Or, I ask to hang outside work and take it from there.

I have failed on multiple accounts of this however, that is the basic thing to do. The pool of partners is within the immediate friendgroup and I don't have one of those so works my only pool to fish from. I know my weaknesses so I do what I can.

If I make manager ever, then I will revise my plan...
goodlil666 · 51-55, M
Start some casual conversation , some flirting and then if she is still receptive some teasing and then ask her out.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
It only happened once for me that I know of where a guy had a crush on me at work. He was a really nice lawyer and we developed a good friendship over a few years. We often went for lunch together and I could talk to him about anything. but I didn’t realize he liked me more than a friend until one day when he asked me out for dinner. I did go but I felt awkward about dating someone I worked with so I told him as much. We are still friends today, 30 years later
I think I just act like usual. I don't try talking to them more or less or pay any special attention to them I just might joke more & be more comfortable with them whenever we do talk.

I've only dated coworkers a few times though & it usually didn't work out. I even left one job over it once
iamnikki · 31-35, F
I had one who would always make an excuse to talk to me.
If he was talking to someone else, and I passed by, he'd always say hello, then continue on with who he was talking to.
One time I was working late, in another building alone. He came to check on me.
496sbc · 36-40, M
I think ud have to tell Her or him because one day they will catch u staring at them and if they ask why what would u say. So better off to just say it to them then hold back and never know at all
Onasander · 41-45, M
Azlotto · M
@Onasander LMAO...I hate when that happens.
exchrist · 31-35
Im in general friendly get them to laugh and thats it; the rest usually works itself out. My sperm doesnt miss which is well known. And/Or ask to get a drink sometime.
WintaTheAngle · 41-45, M
I’ve worked in predominantly male environments so this never came up.
hunkalove · 61-69, M
@WintaTheAngle Porn store?
WintaTheAngle · 41-45, M
@hunkalove The military and then gas engineers
Last time? I married them. Lasted 15 years.
xTutu7x · F
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow Did you ask them out right away? Were you shy at first?
@xTutu7x Yeah. I am an introvert. My wife was too. So it was a slow burn thing for awhile before I asked her out. Seems everyone else noticed though.

Found out years later our coworkers had a betting pool on how long it would take before we were officially a couple.
xTutu7x · F
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow Love it. Thanks for your reply
tfan123 · 46-50, M
If I even begin to have thoughts of another woman, I look at my wedding ring and I instantly snap out of it.
JRVanguard · 26-30, M
A little overly friendly and find excuses to talk to them
Check in on them often
Stuff like that
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
This has changed. I used to be bold about approaching crushes at work but I learned my lesson lol
supersnipe · 61-69, M
It's only ever happened twice, and in both cases I just let it blow over without incident.
HumanEarth · 56-60, F
I'm a farmer and I'm surrounded by family working with me.
Years ago I acted on it and nothing negative to report
Air humping motions and blow kisses
Vin53 · M
Ratchet, ratchet, ratchet it up...slowly
Northwest · M
Dick pics. Works great, check the HR manual.
Dated them. They weren't that great a person
Rokan · 31-35, M
Id just ignore it to be honest.
Midlifemale · 61-69, M
Had an affair with one
I married her
BigBulge · 41-45, M
I was one of the bosses at a big company. Had my own office with a door that locked. Our company hired a lot of interns. And, most of them were hoping to get full time jobs with us. So, they were very cooperative.
MrSmooTh · 31-35, M
Rule #1 Don't shit where you eat.

People at work are just there. Im there to get my paycheck and pay my bills. Not to play around.
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
I would not date in the workplace personally.
Usually it makes for a terrible work environment and awkwardness the majority of the time. Plus company laws can be really sticky, especially if there's a disparity in position.
xTutu7x · F
@basilfawlty89 I understand.
Azlotto · M
I've never had a crush on someone at work.
candycane · 31-35, F
Hello girl good see you here🙋‍♀️
xTutu7x · F
@candycane Hey, it’s been a while. Good to see you.
candycane · 31-35, F
@xTutu7x hope alls well
xTutu7x · F
@candycane I’m doing okay. 🤗

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