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What is it that she wanted ?

So this girl who came into my life during a horrible time and said she was my friend and had my back and supported me at first abd built a strong connection with me ended up doing a 360 after texting me 24/7 told me she liked me when she was "drunk" and never mentioned having a bf for the whole first month & when she did i was really caught up in just having a friend so i let it slide but to fast forward it just became abuncha games, Hot & Cold behaviour and then was there for me during one of my worse moments but when i needed support still just even a keep going, she ignored me. So as she started to ignore me off/on she then reached out to me needing support i still supported her and helped her through her situation anyway even though i was ignored.

Thats when i started to question myself on if she was really my friend or not or if i just been her emotional side guy cause her BF doesn't treat her right and does mean things to her. So i eventually called her out after being ignored again and let her know even though you ignored me during a hard time in my life i still helped you anyway and wanted to know why she led me on this whole time, even after knowing what i been going through and why was i someone to target and she ghosted me.

Well sense we deliver in the same area and also live in the same city and not far from eachother now but lately i have had weird run ins with her, whether were in the same place delivering or i ended up delivering on her block and would sometimes see her and even once delivered to her house. I make sure i do her block fast to avoid her though & i been seeing her more then i see my other old co workers from her company and the other day i was delivering on the busy street but her block off of it i was on the corner end. I was doing the apartments on the busy street so i was at the end of her block & their was no parking so i had park in a red zone & i walked up. I thought i noticed a white car pulling up slow from the corner of my eye but i didn't fully look up, which she drives & as i walk up to do the apartments & finally head back i see her with her dog in leggings standing right next to my truck as if shes just innocently walking her dog & im like wtf in my head and i walk by fast and didn't even look at her and then slam the door shut quick and then drive off without even staring at her at all. But i heard her on the phone say " i tried, he just slammed it shut"

I really dont know what it is she was looking for? She knows how to reach me if she really wanted go talk.
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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
Its possible she could have been talking to a friend who was telling her "just go talk to him" and when you slammed the door she said, " i tried". Shes sending mixed signals, she likes you, thats why shes always "looking for you" or trying to be in the vicinity of where she expects to see you. Is it possible that she felt guilty about having a boyfriend and was trying to pull away from you when you say that she ignored you when you were going through something? But at the same token wanted to be near you when she was going through something. Does it sound a bit stalkish, yes! But is it? Not necessarily. People are weird. If i were you i would have a conversation and put it all on the table. Whether you are okay with her having a boyfriend, can you just be friends, if so we need to set some boundaries etc...just try having an adult conversation, and go with your gut I'm sure that you are capable of good judgment 😃
Different · 31-35, M
@AngelUnforgiven i am good at judgement but im not gonna bug her she has ignored me even after the fall out we had i did attempt once to reconnect but ahe ignored me. So to me it was a clear message you don't care so why even try being around me and keep searching for me and yeah i dont see it as stalking or anything.

But i guess if i see her again i can say something but idk cause i dont wanna be the one to fix something i didnt break.
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
@Different then you have your answer
swandfriends · 41-45, F
She probably liked you as a friend and just needed a friend at that moment in time. I'm somewhat going through something similar. I met a guy one year ago that I consider the love of my life. He was super excited about me. After a few weeks I learned he was suicidal and had drinking problems. I was THERE for him. When the tables turned and I had anything I was either going through or even something I was excited about, he wouldn't respond to me. Wasn't there like I was for him. He still would occasionally make me feel like I was all he ever needed, but then found out he was seeing other girls.
Different · 31-35, M
@swandfriends yeah i don't get people like that and if she liked me only as a friend then why did she lead me on ? I wasnt looking for a friend she chased me down n pushed her way in to be my friend then told me she liked me and msfe me think she was single told me she lived alone and would tell me its not like shes doing anything else sfter work or seeing anyone ss if she wss single andvthen texted me 24 7 fir a minth with no mention of a bf at all. I know the difference between a girl liking me as a friend and actually liking me lol

I have many girls who are friends and we remain friends cause no lines are crossed she crossed lines which changed are friendship.
swandfriends · 41-45, F
@Different yeah thats how this guy was. He was the one who took notice of me first, showed emotions first, acted like he wanted to be together, then at the same time tells similarl things to other women. It's weird. It's like some people fake it just to have a few backup plans
Different · 31-35, M
@swandfriends yeah i hate people like that so now im cold with it & stitched lip
Adrift · 61-69, F
Sounds like she likes to play a catch and release game.
I would just move on.
@Adrift Like the cat toying w the mouse before .. you know ..
Walk away. Period. Nothing good is coming from her.
Different · 31-35, M
@BrandNewMan i did lol i just dont get what she wants after she ghosted me
@Different I would not put any energy toward even that ..
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Different · 31-35, M
@4meAndyou hahaha well thank you u went in on her hahaha
YoMomma ·
Maybe they are trying to rob your truck?
YoMomma ·
@Different yeah i was just ignoring it.. i'm paranoid of thieves.. in a way i relate to her too much because i tried dating while already in a relationship and it can't work if one isn't ready to let go of their existing situation.. no point in dragging anyone else in she needs to back off out of your hair/space 😬 i'm just distracted by delivery thief and they may be targeting your truck idk 😏 😤
Different · 31-35, M
@YoMomma thats what i said so i asked her why even do all that if u had no intentions of leaving ur other situation qnd yosu dont have to leave but why me? I was in a bad head space.
YoMomma ·
@Different yeah she can't make up her mind.. 😬 and doesn't want to let go of anything .. basic selfishness i guess
NinaCherry · 26-30, F
i can date you, i got freckles like you 😅
Tumbleweed · F
She wants you to chase her.
sarahcupcake · 36-40, F
@Tumbleweed She is the kind of person who will say nothing but just stare into your eyes for a long long time.... then she says "I know what you are thinking, Sarah.." and i have to run to the loo.......
Tumbleweed · F
@sarahcupcake Exactly.
sarahcupcake · 36-40, F
@Tumbleweed ...** locks the loo door **
dale74 · M
Sounds like a catfish did she want money
Lilliesandlight · 41-45, F
She sounds narcissistic

 
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