What is it that she wanted ?

So this girl who came into my life during a horrible time and said she was my friend and had my back and supported me at first abd built a strong connection with me ended up doing a 360 after texting me 24/7 told me she liked me when she was "drunk" and never mentioned having a bf for the whole first month & when she did i was really caught up in just having a friend so i let it slide but to fast forward it just became abuncha games, Hot & Cold behaviour and then was there for me during one of my worse moments but when i needed support still just even a keep going, she ignored me. So as she started to ignore me off/on she then reached out to me needing support i still supported her and helped her through her situation anyway even though i was ignored.

Thats when i started to question myself on if she was really my friend or not or if i just been her emotional side guy cause her BF doesn't treat her right and does mean things to her. So i eventually called her out after being ignored again and let her know even though you ignored me during a hard time in my life i still helped you anyway and wanted to know why she led me on this whole time, even after knowing what i been going through and why was i someone to target and she ghosted me.

Well sense we deliver in the same area and also live in the same city and not far from eachother now but lately i have had weird run ins with her, whether were in the same place delivering or i ended up delivering on her block and would sometimes see her and even once delivered to her house. I make sure i do her block fast to avoid her though & i been seeing her more then i see my other old co workers from her company and the other day i was delivering on the busy street but her block off of it i was on the corner end. I was doing the apartments on the busy street so i was at the end of her block & their was no parking so i had park in a red zone & i walked up. I thought i noticed a white car pulling up slow from the corner of my eye but i didn't fully look up, which she drives & as i walk up to do the apartments & finally head back i see her with her dog in leggings standing right next to my truck as if shes just innocently walking her dog & im like wtf in my head and i walk by fast and didn't even look at her and then slam the door shut quick and then drive off without even staring at her at all. But i heard her on the phone say " i tried, he just slammed it shut"

I really dont know what it is she was looking for? She knows how to reach me if she really wanted go talk.

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swandfriends · 41-45, F

She probably liked you as a friend and just needed a friend at that moment in time. I'm somewhat going through something similar. I met a guy one year ago that I consider the love of my life. He was super excited about me. After a few weeks I learned he was suicidal and had drinking problems. I was THERE for him. When the tables turned and I had anything I was either going through or even something I was excited about, he wouldn't respond to me. Wasn't there like I was for him. He still would occasionally make me feel like I was all he ever needed, but then found out he was seeing other girls.

Different · 31-35, M

@swandfriends yeah i don't get people like that and if she liked me only as a friend then why did she lead me on ? I wasnt looking for a friend she chased me down n pushed her way in to be my friend then told me she liked me and msfe me think she was single told me she lived alone and would tell me its not like shes doing anything else sfter work or seeing anyone ss if she wss single andvthen texted me 24 7 fir a minth with no mention of a bf at all. I know the difference between a girl liking me as a friend and actually liking me lol

I have many girls who are friends and we remain friends cause no lines are crossed she crossed lines which changed are friendship.

swandfriends · 41-45, F

@Different yeah thats how this guy was. He was the one who took notice of me first, showed emotions first, acted like he wanted to be together, then at the same time tells similarl things to other women. It's weird. It's like some people fake it just to have a few backup plans

Different · 31-35, M

@swandfriends yeah i hate people like that so now im cold with it & stitched lip

swandfriends · 41-45, F

I've been hearing about the "No contact" rule. Once you completely stop communication with them, at some point, they might reach out. Or when their option of what ever person they were dealing with goes away, break up or something. Then they might realize what they had in you. But sometimes we meet soulmates in our life that we were never actually meant to be with in this lifetime. I've been in love with 3 different guys in my life. 2 of them were circumstances that left me without them. Could have never really been with them. This new one though, it could go somewhere if he'd drop his fears surrounding it

Different · 31-35, M

@swandfriends yeah i havent contacted her and left it like that now i just see her around alot. But yeah mzybe if she finally grows enough to leave him shell reach out but even if she did i now dont know to forgive her myself anyway cause who does all that to a person eho was nothing but kind to them and always had their back and respected them.

swandfriends · 41-45, F

Yeah they could at least be appreciative of having a friend like that around.

Different · 31-35, M

@swandfriends yeah but they usually dont care about you and only themselves so its hard.