I really need some good advice. My spiritual advisor advised me not to get a divorce

I think your spiritual advisor needs to seek another avenue of employment AKA they are WRONG 💯.

You absolutely deserve joy safety and peace. And you are brave to consider leaving. You can do it. I did. So many have done it! 🤗

Your kids know you are hurting.
It will be of immeasurable value to them when they see their Mama leave a bad marriage.
They will benefit because YOU will benefit
and it's a great thing to lead with love and joy, by example.

(It would have been miraculous to see it with mine, but, I was not so fortunate.)

Not sure of your religion, but Biblically, infidelity - yes, even online - is one of the only reasons mentioned for divorce. If your spiritual asvisor uses the Bible for reference and isn't giving talking to you about that, maybe you need to find another. But let's face it, in the end, the decision is yours and yours alone. It depends on your circumstances, beliefs, needs, finances, responsibilities, and desires. I wish you much luck in your journey.

You did your part and stayed until your kids were grown up. If that was I good idea I do not know because staying together the kids also saw that and the affect on you. But now you have to look out for yourself because its your life and whats make's you happy. Do you want to be the person that broke up the marrage well the marrage was broken already you and just ending it and moving on. But things to get ready for do you work do you have your own bank account do you have life insurance do you own the house you are living in. Do not fight over small things the end game is to get out. If you have life insurance you will have to change the benificarire to your estate

I’m confused. Why would a spiritual advisor not be supportive of your happiness? You obviously sacrificed for the sake of your children so now it’s time to take care of yourself.

You need to take a decision considering various factors into account.

First the reason.. the most pressing problem?

Your age and whether you plan to look for someone else or live alone?

Since children are grown up it solves a major problem. You can discuss with them too.

And your husband.. maybe he may let you be free and open and live a separate life without having to divorce.. like you just be like siblings.

If you got advice from what I assume is a trusted source for yourself and you are looking for other opinions because you did not like the advice given I think you already know what you should be doing. It seems like you are asking for permission rather than advice.

I wish you luck, but if your spiritual advisor's advice is making miserable, perhaps it's time to switch to some other spiritual advisor.

He is likely your husband's spiritual advisor as well. And giving advice that serves his other client.

Let me do some spiritual michmichmuchaa.

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After connecting to 99th dimension I conclude you need to find yourself someone who can bless you with a proper Wohoooo!!!

Have you asked your spiritual adviser why they’re advising against a divorce? Understanding the reasoning is important.

You will forever be an inspiration to your children and grandchildren. Having said that, imyaware that these things are. often much more complex than that 1 issue

You should not sacrifice your happiness, however sometimes we may find that having a thing is not so pleasing as wanting a thing. Where is the true source of your happiness?

I'd think that depends on what efforts you've put in to fix things and how much value you see in the marriage.

If you can afford independence I think you deserved your freedom

No. You deserve some joy.

I'll be glad to talk with you anytime

You could try marriage or relationship counseling.

Tbh need more info here.

If your children are gone and you are unhappy why stay life is too short

No get the divorce

What are u sacrificing?

You cant divorce as much you like to believe.

If you want a divorce, get a divorce..