What’s up with married men? Why can’t they make love to their wives properly?
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Softandsweet2 · 31-35, F
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Chiefjustice · 46-50, M
"What is proper love making"?
Do you care to define it? I am curious, as to what your definition or expectation is of "proper love making"?
Is it how long he lasts? The time spent in foreplay? Is it an erection? Is it him making sure she finishes or also has an orgasm? What elements make "proper love making" ?
Various internal external factors (health, stress related to work, family, smoking, alcohol, drugs, generically modified food, platics use, water) plus rejection from the partner. Help me understand how manay married men are we talking about....
Let us also understand, that no one teach us how to have sex, accept for porn and what is flaoted in the society as whole..
Actual art of making love OR Sex is never ever talked about or taught it is left for both to learn as you go. Who teaches is that Foreplay is the foundation of any sexual intimacy, and spent or focus on that, just like preheating the oven, you don't stick it in the cold oven and asume it will work. And intercourse is not the only means of making love..
So how do we learn, by asking questions and find out. Do men or boys talk to each other about how to have sex? No. Do women communicate what they want or need?
I dont know, what i do not from reading stats, research and speaking with some friends that love making declines rapidly after having kids... sexless marriages and relationships.
I dont doubt, unfortunately, many men act no different than animals and getting in that way... the answer lies in thw environment they grow up..
Do you care to define it? I am curious, as to what your definition or expectation is of "proper love making"?
Is it how long he lasts? The time spent in foreplay? Is it an erection? Is it him making sure she finishes or also has an orgasm? What elements make "proper love making" ?
Various internal external factors (health, stress related to work, family, smoking, alcohol, drugs, generically modified food, platics use, water) plus rejection from the partner. Help me understand how manay married men are we talking about....
Let us also understand, that no one teach us how to have sex, accept for porn and what is flaoted in the society as whole..
Actual art of making love OR Sex is never ever talked about or taught it is left for both to learn as you go. Who teaches is that Foreplay is the foundation of any sexual intimacy, and spent or focus on that, just like preheating the oven, you don't stick it in the cold oven and asume it will work. And intercourse is not the only means of making love..
So how do we learn, by asking questions and find out. Do men or boys talk to each other about how to have sex? No. Do women communicate what they want or need?
I dont know, what i do not from reading stats, research and speaking with some friends that love making declines rapidly after having kids... sexless marriages and relationships.
I dont doubt, unfortunately, many men act no different than animals and getting in that way... the answer lies in thw environment they grow up..
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Chiefjustice · 46-50, M
@fanuc2013 thanks!
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PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
Chiefjustice · 46-50, M
@PerfectionOfTheHeart Very true for all the good men who do it!. Yes. And i can tell you, it is Not easy.
PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
@Chiefjustice Of course it’s not. It’s a ton of pressure and that’s hard to shake off in the bedroom when you’re asked to perform once again. And coming to any man, but especially the man you’re building a future with and asking why they’re not good at love making is insulting, void of compassion, and just plain ignorant.
Chiefjustice · 46-50, M
@PerfectionOfTheHeart well said and put.
Thank you!! Comes from a much deeper understanding!! I appreciate your thoughtfulness here.
Not all men are couch potatoes and gamers. Throughout my careers, i've helped positions working long hours, every day 12 to 14 hrs in the office, going home and once everyone is in bed back on it until midnight and i still do.
Volunteer on weekends, couch, participate in different community events and associations. It is exhausting. Your brain is fried, and when you get home, you need some peace inquire to recharge to take on the world again next day.
I'm not saying every man is like that.Yes, there are men who do not pay attention and are selfish. But this post incriminate every man out there which is totally insulting.
Thank you!! Comes from a much deeper understanding!! I appreciate your thoughtfulness here.
Not all men are couch potatoes and gamers. Throughout my careers, i've helped positions working long hours, every day 12 to 14 hrs in the office, going home and once everyone is in bed back on it until midnight and i still do.
Volunteer on weekends, couch, participate in different community events and associations. It is exhausting. Your brain is fried, and when you get home, you need some peace inquire to recharge to take on the world again next day.
I'm not saying every man is like that.Yes, there are men who do not pay attention and are selfish. But this post incriminate every man out there which is totally insulting.
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Ceci13 · 51-55, F
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samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@FoxyGoddess i assume that the women are also utilizing social media in the same way. They should if the don't, realize that there is an intermediary in a virtual relationship. I hoe my conversations re never perceived as such. Then again, I can only speak for myself. Am i leading you on? If I am, i apologize.
FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F
@samueltyler2 No, not at all. I am just speaking in generalizations.
The issue is, a lot of men don't bother to admit that they are married, and operate like they wish to have an intimate relationship, even though they are not at all free to do. That is unfair to both the wife and the woman online. The lying only protects him, but causes a lot of damage to those he has lied to.
In your case, you were fairly open about being married and I have my own boundaries to not engage flirtatiously with married men, so there was no issue there.
The issue is, a lot of men don't bother to admit that they are married, and operate like they wish to have an intimate relationship, even though they are not at all free to do. That is unfair to both the wife and the woman online. The lying only protects him, but causes a lot of damage to those he has lied to.
In your case, you were fairly open about being married and I have my own boundaries to not engage flirtatiously with married men, so there was no issue there.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@FoxyGoddess thank you.
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samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Ghostie who is the "you" you refer to?
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Ghostie okay, thanks for the clarification.
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Chiefjustice · 46-50, M
@SlippingAway unfortunately sometimes "some" do for sure, and they dont know better and understand female biology/ sexuality and how it works and at times unable to put in more effort.
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Miram · 31-35, F
Their hearts are with me
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samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Gingerbreadspice good question.
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JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M
Takes notes. 📝
Well, you know the difference between married men and unmarried men...
Is that they got married...
So maybe that's the problem? 🤔
Is that they got married...
So maybe that's the problem? 🤔
AuRevoir · 36-40, M
@WoWgirll It’s just what I read in various online reports.
Anyone can scrutinize t he data if they wish. It’s fair to be skeptical but it makes more sense. Married men are likely to engage in it as many OF models are younger, and it can be attributed to a “midlife crisis” by interacting with younger women online it might make them feel not as old and as if they can still hangout with younger generations, or be seen as sexually valuable by younger women even though they’re already spoken for etc… It could also be maybe just the taboo act of getting away with something even though being technically married.
You can Google search the 90% married men thing or watch YouTube videos on people discussing it.
Anyone can scrutinize t he data if they wish. It’s fair to be skeptical but it makes more sense. Married men are likely to engage in it as many OF models are younger, and it can be attributed to a “midlife crisis” by interacting with younger women online it might make them feel not as old and as if they can still hangout with younger generations, or be seen as sexually valuable by younger women even though they’re already spoken for etc… It could also be maybe just the taboo act of getting away with something even though being technically married.
You can Google search the 90% married men thing or watch YouTube videos on people discussing it.
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WoWgirll · 36-40, F
@FlowersInHerHair nice
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