What’s up with married men? Why can’t they make love to their wives properly?

"What is proper love making"?

Do you care to define it? I am curious, as to what your definition or expectation is of "proper love making"?
Is it how long he lasts? The time spent in foreplay? Is it an erection? Is it him making sure she finishes or also has an orgasm? What elements make "proper love making" ?

Various internal external factors (health, stress related to work, family, smoking, alcohol, drugs, generically modified food, platics use, water) plus rejection from the partner. Help me understand how manay married men are we talking about....

Let us also understand, that no one teach us how to have sex, accept for porn and what is flaoted in the society as whole..

Actual art of making love OR Sex is never ever talked about or taught it is left for both to learn as you go. Who teaches is that Foreplay is the foundation of any sexual intimacy, and spent or focus on that, just like preheating the oven, you don't stick it in the cold oven and asume it will work. And intercourse is not the only means of making love..

So how do we learn, by asking questions and find out. Do men or boys talk to each other about how to have sex? No. Do women communicate what they want or need?

I dont know, what i do not from reading stats, research and speaking with some friends that love making declines rapidly after having kids... sexless marriages and relationships.

I dont doubt, unfortunately, many men act no different than animals and getting in that way... the answer lies in thw environment they grow up..