Married people: what’s the ONE advice you wish you could give single people who want to get married?

Meet their family and friends, and make note of how they were raised, how they interact with their family, with children, do a background check, start with a simple google search. It will amaze you what you can find out. My dad was 50 when i was born, he was born in 1922 and i did a search on him and was able to find out about his parents, he told me growing up where he lived etc..so i knew bits and peices but the search led me to my grandparents names where they grew up etc..he had these deep blue eyes with gray and i ended up with gray eyes and i was curious as to how. And i got my answer.

I've been married for 53 years coming this May 12 2025

You don't need a piece of paper to prove your love for one thing

Best friends make the best spouses

Learn to pick your battles. You don't always have to right even you are. Let them find out that you were right in the in the first place. Then you can gloat about it and say ”See I told you I was right"

Dont do it.. It was the biggest mistake of my life.. Its made me not trust men anymore

Dont think marriage is the solution to all your problems.
If you can live happily all by yourself then please continue.
Grass isn't always greener on the other side unless they employed an expensive lawn mower.

Plan for EVERYTHING!!!

Literally, plan for every eventuality... if your relationship turns abusive, if one of you dies young, if things turn sour, if you have a life changing injury/sickness, if you divorce, end of life care - all of it.

Make sure you're both on the same page before you walk down the aisle. It's better to have these plans and never need them than to need them and never have them.

I have been married before I will say this test drive the car before you buy it. Basically meaning live with that person for a while get to know them any real world environment that establishes patterns in consistency and then if you're compatibility holds tie the knot

Only get married if you are truly ready ..pepare for turbulent times too ...be willing to.stick it out and work on things when it gets rough...if you don't want to do this then don't get married

This sounds so "self-help-book" but anyway:

Ask yourself this: which came first: that you liked them, or that you loved them? If the latter, ponder that seriously.

Don't get married. Draft an agreement and mou as every marriage is different.

Do not marry someone that’s not gainfully employed.

Marry someone that has goals and is capable of achieving them.

Never ever marry someone that has a lower sex drive than you’d prefer.

Live together for more than a year before getting married.

Do not have children immediately. You still might be one.

Live together for 3 years first, do not have children simply because you have baby fever and learn to compromise. Also have lots of sex first to learn whether you're sexually compatible or not.

Make sure you are done doing the "me" stuff first..😷

Make sure you are REALLY grown up first. Marriage is very hard work, and the stars in your eyes can blind you to the realities of day to day life.

Don't marry for reproductive purposes.
That's a forced religious social misconception.

Ready or not is irrelevant if you can't get along with others. The new life is apart of the others.

Get married for the right reason, and you will have ups and downs in all marriages

Just because u are in a relationship it doesn't mean u have to get married

Don't expect to find a perfect mate. The one you are with can be good enough.

"If Mama ain't happy, NOBODY is happy!"

Go for it and make it work.

Don't do it

Learn how to communicate. Become an expert.

Do a practice run.

It’s no fairytale.

Don't

The responses are so sad and discouraging here. smh. It makes it look just miserable to be married

Don’t do it.

Have a big argument to see how the other person reacts.

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Prenup

Find someone you actually like and get along with.