What do you do when

Respect his wishes without taking it personal, give him the space he has requested.

I think it is partially a gender thing: women tend to like a sounding board to talk out their frustrations; men tend tend to like to crawl into a cave, nurse their wounds, and reflect on what they could have done differently. As with all generalizations, doesn't apply to all.

Also, if it becomes a persistent pattern, then it is time to have a sit down, calm discussion outside of such situations about what it may be doing to your relationship, and how to address the issue. My wife used to give me space -- unless the job began intruding into her life -- until, as she put it, "I feel I cannot even touch you most of the time. The job is killing you." So we decided we should take the risky big plunge, and me take early retirement without fully knowing whether we were yet financially secure enough to do so. It all worked out, with her continuing her job, me consulting until we had enough laid away to be self-sufficient. And as she frequently said, "if you had continued working full-time, the stress would have killed you within a year".

I would think it sounds they had a really bad day. But I might at least try to offer some concern, even if just to vent about their day. Such is one's job as a spouse.

What can you do???

Disrespecting his wishes and trying to wedge yourself in there regardless could be a sign of abuse.

Most of us can function independently of the other for a few hours at a time, so give him his space and let him come to you as and when he is ready... unless he is showing signs of a mental health crisis and is waving a gun around.

I don't think we have experienced that, but both of us can tell when the other had a rough day and could use some extra TLC or maybe a calming drink.

rarely happens but give him his space and I'll take the guest suite

Give him room.

Check in tomorrow.

You never know he may have enough lone space in a couple of hours and be back.

As he asks. Just so long as he knows I’m there if he wants to talk.

I’d go to the bar.

Ask if he wants to join ya, he’ll know where you are.

Have fun

I'm good at giving people their space ...I too require it at times

Give them space, but maybe make something they like and use giving it to them as an excuse to check on them.

Send him to another room and then have a conversation with him tomorrow. Then see talk to a therapist.

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@Heretodaygonetomorrow 🤔fair enough he has had a bad day just let him have that time and let him reflect

I would give him the space he asked for. Then the next day, we would talk.

You should tell him to kiss your but and make his own dinner and get his own beer. I would definitely want the comfort of a loving spouse after a hard day. That’s a feeling sorry for his self attitude without regards to your feelings.

Give him space & let him regroup

I would not want a partner like that .

I feel like that most days.

I look forward to that day. 😬

Respect his wishes and discuss the situation tomorrow.

I'd wake up, bc my spouse would not be a he.

Par-TEE!!! Out to eat at an expensive restaurant, rent a room in a luxury hotel, and watch cable movies ALL night while drinking up the contents of the Mini Bar and ordering room service!

🤣🤣🤣

I would be extremely worried about his mental health.

Leave him be

Let him text you tomorrow to find out where you are.

I give him space

Sounds like an emotional guy tbh

let them go destress on their own

give him a week to come over himself.

He sounds like an [expletive deleted] drama queen.

Ouch…never had the balls to do that. He may need some intervention.

🤷🏾‍♂ uhh leave them alone?