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How is your marraige ?

I have been married for 24 yrs
When i got married to her our pastor asked me if im sure i want to get married to her cause we are completely different in every way

Conversation and sex has dried up and a person can tell that she doesnt like me anymore....not even happy to see me or anything.......is this normal ?

She tends to blame me or want to pick a fight randomly

I heard from someone if a women still fight with you she still cares for you ......but i can physically see she has dried up towards me
Blondily · F Best Comment
Mines good. The hub and I are best friends.

My advice to you is start dating her again. Marriages can become stale if you get into the brother/sister rut after being married for years. Go out of your way to do things together. Talk about how you first met, etc. It could rekindle that old spark again. Take her away for your next anniversary. There are many ways to mend the fences. Do it and get to it. There's still hope.
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Blondily · F
Thank you for BA and good luck!🙂🌷

Fairydust · F
Life’s too short to stay where you’re not wanted or appreciated.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
Fifty year and we have always been true partners in life. (Yes. I know how lucky that is) At times we argued and I didnt always win. But in the end we had thw same life goals, which meant we always faced the same obstancles together..Looking back, I couldnt have done it without her , nor she without me. Now her mind isnt what it was, although so far she is still herself. So I am here with her, steering her and supporting her, as long as I am able..😷
sree251 · 41-45, M
@whowasthatmaskedman Short term memory? It happens to me all the time. The moment I leave the kitchen to go into the pantry, I forget why I went into the pantry to get. I forget people's names seconds after being introduced.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@sree251 This is more like asking the same question every 10 minutes. I mustered my will and took her out for a casual meal with a couple of her old friends who are up to speed on her condition. . Five times in the car I had to explain where we were going, (she gets anxious outside her routine) and she is still asking me about her friends new home at least once a day. On the up side, she can watch her favourite shows over and over..😷
sree251 · 41-45, M
@whowasthatmaskedman You must have married her right out of high school. Relationships like yours are what young people need for getting through the struggles of life. You are now her wingman returning with her from a combat mission in life. Bring her down safely, pardner.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
Looking at your age group is she going through perimenopause because when i started i was all over the place and in some very dark moods for a while.
Why on earth did you get married? What did you share in common then? It is not common for sex to just end. Nor to withdraw affection nor to fight all the time. Has she seen a doctor? For assessment. Do you need to attend counselling? Have you sat down with her and asked her what exactly is going on? Women like to communicate about their feelings? How do you treat her? Do you act with kindness? Or is there a wall of silence between you besides the arguing? Only you know if you want to stay unhappily in a cold marriage. Try talking to her. Make the time. Tell her how you feel about all this. Keep us updated.
wudifu · 46-50, M
@PoetryNEmotion thank you
in10RjFox · M
Married for 24 years to one person ? Which means you have not had an active and Vibrant life.

Psychologically, couples who are married for long, become like sibilings. So you can start looking out for girl friends and get involved with other women. Actually you should convey the same to your wife directly, that you are bored in life, and that you wish to start dating again, and the you would like to free her as well. If she throws tantrums and blames you, just tell her "that's the reason why I wish to free you so you can find someone better than me... and let's both lead the remaining life in a better way. "
wudifu · 46-50, M
@in10RjFox thans for your input
robertsnj · 56-60, M
If you are Christian sex is for pro-creation not so much recreation.

if she doesn't talk to you she probalby doesn't like you.

Best of luck to you.
B2nd2none · 41-45, M
I feel your pain brother! If you have kids it makes it more complicated.
GeniUs · 56-60, M
24 years isn't bad, time to call it a day and stop making each other unhappy.
SeaGlass · F
Is she near the same age as you?
wudifu · 46-50, M
@SeaGlass 3 yrs older
SeaGlass · F
@wudifu Consider the stresses of peri-menopause and menopause. It's a rough time in a woman's life. A lot of marriages fall apart around this time. It's no coincidence. Maybe read up on it a bit. It's very possible you shouldn't be taking her behavior personally, even if she doesn't realize what's happening. I hope you two will make it through
wudifu · 46-50, M
@SeaGlass thank you very much.....she is going through it....will do a read up
JSul3 · 70-79
As the song says, If We Make It To December.....it will be 48 years.
MarineBob · 56-60, M
It is pretty shaky but we are working on it
Justlookin · 51-55, M
Man I feel the exact same way !!!
black4white · 56-60, M
Ask her what she thinks? That’s gonna be your best starting spot and don’t take “nothing” as a proper answer…
Just what you said her say to her… in a softer way of course but THAT will guide you better than any thing other than her says
TexChik · F
Duct tape! 😉🤭🤭🤭
Fawma123 · 46-50, M
Not one to brag but my marriage is fantastic best friends and still loves
Degbeme · 70-79, M
My wife and I are more roommates than a married couple. Sex dosen`t exist with us.
exexec · 61-69, C
We are still doing fine after 40+ years
wudifu · 46-50, M
@exexec maybe you very much alike with the same interests
HumanEarth · 56-60, F
This should explain it, been married longer then you

https://similarworlds.com/relationships/marriage/4919506-My-wife-and-I-exhibit-these-qualities-and-are-unlikely-to
"She"? Yep. It's normal.
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
If she isn't happy seeing you, there is something wrong. It may be that she seriously doesn't like your way of living or dealing with things that she just can't stand your sight now.
Having a good long chat where you are just listening would help find out the reasons.
In the end, you can remind her of your good old days and what can bring them back.
wudifu · 46-50, M
@Donotfolowme thank you
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
@wudifu I wish you well.
SamInAZ · 41-45, M
I hope you didn't actually tell her she seems "dried up"...if you did, that might explain why you ain't getting any, vato.😆

 
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