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Is it a turn off for guys...

If a woman over 40 has minimal /low dating experience?

I feel some would look down on me. Believe I'm a ' red flag'. I know that means they're not for me then, but still facing that is daunting 🥺
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DragonFruit · 70-79, M Best Comment
You aren't looking for someone who wants an experienced dater....you're looking for someone who can appreciate you for who you are.
Don't view minimal dating experience as a negative...some of us might view that as preferable to a person who dates a lot and never seems to have a lasting relationship.
There are all kinds of men and women in the world, but not everyone is going to be the right person for you. Don't settle for someone who's looking for sex, but find someone who's willing to take the time to get to know and appreciate you.
Start by being someone who appreciates yourself.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@DragonFruit] Thanks appreciate that 🌷. I guess I'm also referring to not only dating per se, but I haven't had many relationships either. I know some people think it's odd or a flag if someone hasn't had many relationships to speak of. I guess I'd just keep on keeping on, if they feel that way about it. 😕
Appreciate myself, like in take pride in my positive traits?
DragonFruit · 70-79, M
@Coralmist Precisely...you're a good person, don't get down on yourself. Accentuate the positives!
@DragonFruit I couldn't of said this any better.

here's all you gotta do coral....just be kind to yourself, animals, family and fellow peers. don't try to change who you are because you have some crush on a man and want to reel him in. you've stated before you have anxiety issues etc, but don't let that stand in the way of finding a man that you find interesting. throughout history men were thought of as the hunters, the gatherers and providers and i know times have changed but some men still feel that way....there are men out there who are of the traditional mindset that would love to date you...there are plenty of fish in the ocean...ever heard that expression?....my only advice to you is have a little bit of confidence in yourself and show some sass...
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@beermeplease Thank you for a warm reply Beer, 🥹
@beermeplease very good advice
Livingwell · 61-69, M
I wouldn't see it that way. I'd see it as you didn't sleep around a lot and were more stable in your choices. I wouldn't be guy of the week. That would be a big plus in my book. You're a good person. Let your personality speak for you. The right one will just click. 🤗
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Livingwell Thanks for that🌷
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
Do not overthink it; it's dating and not spilling everything about myself in one go.
In my opinion, people move way too fast nowadays.
I would insist on real dates as going out to dinner, movies, picnics, events, etc.
No chillin and netflex dates.
Moving in after a short period of dating is a recipe for disaster in my own opinion.
What can you know about a person after a few weeks or months?
If a guy is interested and not just hanging around for sex he isn't going to protest some boundaries or inexperience.
I he does, you will know that is one you should not keep dating, and if you've gone slow and have not heavily invested yourself, it's going to be a lot easier emotionally to break things off.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Justmeraeagain Thank youRae🪻
twiigss · M
It's not a turn off at all Coral. If we were dating, I'd embrace everything you bring to the relationship and would be there 110% for you to support you in every way possible and try to make your days golden 🫂
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@twiigss That's very kind Twiigss✨
Oh my goodness. If I were looking for someone, for me that would be a turn on.

I would be less interested in someone with lots of dating experience, both because I'd be insecure about being a good enough lover for her, and because I would think she has a poor track record of actually building relationships. Neither of those worries would kick in with someone in your situation.
@Coralmist It certainly would not bother me, and I think there are good people out there who are actually available who will not be bothered either!
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@ThePatientAnarchist Thank you 🦋
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@ThePatientAnarchist Most people in general have had more experience than me overall with relationships..I've had crippling PTSD twenty years that's been a real hurdle and a barrier to love. But I hope someone might understand. Ty again 🌟
Highskirt · 56-60, M
Im old school. Go out socialise and make friends. That usually works as a good foundation for romance. Im not a fan of on line dating. Good luck .the mr right is out there and waiting
robertsnj · 56-60, M
nope not a turnoff - never heard any other guy say it was either . you are really pretty -if you threw your hat into the dating ring i bet you would do ok from time to time--but it does for those dating that the process is really akward / the speed of those apps and all.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@robertsnj Never saw this! Ty that's kind of you to say🌷
romell · 51-55, M
Even god can't satisfy the entire human race and you are human .. everyone has his own choice made up from experience s ,upbringing,etc reasons..you did go on date or you didn't is your choice . Wil you ask the guy how many dates have you been on? How many women have you slept with? Obviously no...so chill enjoy the moment and go with the flow..
jehova · 31-35, M
Its not necessarily a red flag. If she prioritizes herself over romance or is focused on work. Im 35 and single for some years. Life is chaotic it is no big deal.
Elisbch · M
I can't think of it as a red flag but I would be very curious to know why and hopefully in some time she would feel comfortable enough and willing to shed some light on it and talk about it a bit. I would be moving slow towards a new relationship anyway.
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
It should probably be a red flag for you if you're encountering someone who inquired or even cared about your dating [or lack thereof] history. It's really none of anyone's business. I imagine it's not really something someone is going to ask about and you can certainly be vague in your response "oh just not a lot" and not elaborate any further.
I'm not looking, but suffice to say, no; you're uniquely you, and you have qualities, quirks and other traits that balance out whatever perceived negatives others may see, and, as far as I'm concerned, your physical maturity, I disregard, as that defines next to nothing important.
goliathtree · 56-60, M
Simply put, no it is not. I can't imagine asking for a resume from a woman I wanted to date.
Masterjohn · M
If your happy with how you are that is what counts after be yourself and if the guy is looking for you then he will be happy the way you are .
glad18 · M
Nope. Sometimes experience is way overrated.

As you said, take pride in your positive traits. Like being this wonderful person you are.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
If anything it should be more appealing. Most people I know that have been actively dating around for awhile are usually bitter and miserable. You're a breath of fresh air.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@ScreamingFox I guess besides not having a ton of dating experience, I also don't have many relationships as well...I think some people judge you for it, not in a good way😢
ronisme1 · 61-69, M
Lilred2289 · 36-40, F
Don’t worry about that girl. Just put yourself out there and enjoy.
BillyMack · 46-50, M
Not at all. Just seems you haven’t found what worked for you yet.
22Michelle · 70-79, T
Why would anyone see it as a "red flag". Just got to see how it goes, and enjoy the trip.
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
I don’t think it’s a red flag at all.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Muthafukajones Ty friend 🌸
VisionQuest · 51-55, M
Not at all. There's nothing wrong with inexperience.
Miram · 31-35, F
It doesn't matter what men in general think is a turn off , nor is it possible to deduce that.

You should only live your life through what matters to you specifically.
Peter1985 · 36-40, M
No not at all
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
If you want to date someone it’s because you like them not because of dating experience
Nick1 · 61-69, M
Not really. All that means is you need to be handle with care.
Initially you some time and your space.
ToLivePeacefully · 31-35, M
Its different for everyone.
no not at all. I imagine that's low on the list of what men care about.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@StygianKohlrabi So tight dress is what they seek...ahhh huh🤦‍♀😝
@Coralmist don't forget a smooth voice 😛
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@StygianKohlrabi Thank you🤭
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
That's only an issue to you and your anxiety/depression.
mindless · M
Not really
Want to build some experience together?
When you meet the right guy, all of that will be dust in the wind!
MasterLee · 56-60, M
Dating is a turnoff
Ramon67 · 61-69, M
For me the higher the number the lower my interest .
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It would be odd, yes, but not insurmountable.
Musicman · 61-69, M
Not in the least. We are far interested in you and your personality.

 
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