How to tell my boyfriend I kinda don't want to marry him next year?

Honey, this is a major life decision, and one you admit you're not ready for. That's good you're really in touch with your feelings. You must never go against your gut feelings. Always be true to yourself. You come first. You have made good plans for your life. Stick with them. I'm not saying the following would happen, but in reality, the possibility is there and I wonder how you would feel emotionally if you became pregnant. That is not unrealistic at all, then you'd be left raising a baby for 18 years and that would make a hug alteration in your life. I feel you're headed for heartache even by allowing him to come for two years, then be ripped from your life again for who knows how long. But that's just me.

Then tell him that. I don't think it is a good idea at all to marry a person you have never met before. After the two months together, you will know each other better and make a decision.

If you think it is hard now, think how hard it would be later, if you don't tell him the truth now.

so just tell him what you just said here and you're good. You can reword it in a way that might appeal to him more but yeah just say to him what you said now.

Marriage is a SERIOUS decision, which you know. Much planning, knowing of the other person you are going to share things with, especially with what is going on in your mind, heart, and body.

You know this.

So why do you not share what you shared here?

Yes, you may hurt his feelings. He may be let down. HOWEVER. This is your Life you are sharing with this person who you have yet to live with (as much as you may know each other over the 'net, it is nothing like having them in person; talking from someone who has been in a Long Distance Relationship before across countries).

Set up a time line where it will work for both of you, where you will not feel pressured and STICK TO THAT TIMELINE. If you say within six months, he can come by, than stick with that.

If this is a love that will last a life time, then the wait will be worth it. Otherwise, you both have lots of learning and growing to do separately and not while together.

tell him you suddenly like pussy now

I have a feeling he's trying to screw you over.

I say be straight-forward, honest, and open, try to be flexible, though that might be some of the currently problem. Otherwise make your concerns known.

Just be honest with him and don't put it off. Make your reasons why clear and say that you love him and so on.

I believe the good old fashioned way is probably the best. Face to face... over skype. I believe Dubai's warm this time of year.

Whatta mess

Good luck

tell him you aren't ready. being honest is the foundation of a successful relationship. good luck and i hope you will find happiness.