How to tell my boyfriend I kinda don't want to marry him next year?

He is very excited about it but the truth is that as much as I love him the situation is kinda funny.
1.We didn't met yet because we live on different continents
2.We will meet soon but he won't even stay the whole year with me, because he has to go back, and break the news to his parents who believe I will move in US (but that's not in our plan)
3.He will stay like 2 months with me, he will be gone for 2 months and come back again but I am kinda afraid of all this.
I know him since a while, more than 2 years and I don't want to lose him but I am too childish and I feel unprepared for this.

Many bad things happen in my life and I have to take care of everything, not to mention the money issue, I'm going to start my business in a few months and is going to be HECTIC.

I just want to delay it a bit.I want to spend more time with him, I would marry him anyway but I don't like being "rushed".

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mic11225 · 26-30, M

so just tell him what you just said here and you're good. You can reword it in a way that might appeal to him more but yeah just say to him what you said now.

Fabiola · 26-30, F

I am so afraid I will hurt him.

mic11225 · 26-30, M

@Fabiola: And by not communicating what you want you will be hurting yourself which by itself you wanna minimize. It may turn out to be nothing but it also might nurture resentment in yourself which could also hurt him. If you hurt him it's justified in my eyes because there is no malice or apathy behind it. You are simply standing up for what you want, and I find your reasons why reasonable personally.

Burnley123 · 41-45, M

@Fabiola: If he is still marrying you then he needn't be upset. I rushed into a marriage once and I regret it. Its not a step you should take unless you are ready. Not just for your sake but for his too.