How to tell my boyfriend I kinda don't want to marry him next year?

He is very excited about it but the truth is that as much as I love him the situation is kinda funny.
1.We didn't met yet because we live on different continents
2.We will meet soon but he won't even stay the whole year with me, because he has to go back, and break the news to his parents who believe I will move in US (but that's not in our plan)
3.He will stay like 2 months with me, he will be gone for 2 months and come back again but I am kinda afraid of all this.
I know him since a while, more than 2 years and I don't want to lose him but I am too childish and I feel unprepared for this.

Many bad things happen in my life and I have to take care of everything, not to mention the money issue, I'm going to start my business in a few months and is going to be HECTIC.

I just want to delay it a bit.I want to spend more time with him, I would marry him anyway but I don't like being "rushed".

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LysanderFremont · 36-40, M

Marriage is a SERIOUS decision, which you know. Much planning, knowing of the other person you are going to share things with, especially with what is going on in your mind, heart, and body.

You know this.

So why do you not share what you shared here?

Yes, you may hurt his feelings. He may be let down. HOWEVER. This is your Life you are sharing with this person who you have yet to live with (as much as you may know each other over the 'net, it is nothing like having them in person; talking from someone who has been in a Long Distance Relationship before across countries).

Set up a time line where it will work for both of you, where you will not feel pressured and STICK TO THAT TIMELINE. If you say within six months, he can come by, than stick with that.

If this is a love that will last a life time, then the wait will be worth it. Otherwise, you both have lots of learning and growing to do separately and not while together.