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Here We Go Again

I hate myself for not being strong enough to kick him out of my life for good.He does not make an effort to contact me daily or meet me at least once a week.His reason being he has plenty of other things on his mind.

He will just not respond to texts and calls when we're supposed to meet but he doesn't want to. He says it's because he knows I will be upset and there will be drama.

I actually blocked him for a while but I unblocked him because I am weak.If I'm being honest,I'm still hopeful that things will work out between us.

I actually asked him how it will make him feel if I did the same thing to him.He said that he will not feel good about it yet he still continues doing the same thing.

I asked to check each other's mobile phones but he obviously refused.He says he wants to marry me but his actions tell me something else.

I know I'm stupid and I should not allow him to continue treating me this way.The sad pathetic thing is even after all this,I still love him.😢😭
Elisbch · M Best Comment
It appears that bitterness and trust in this relationship are already broken and resentments are already growing quickly for both of you.
Beating yourself up over being weak is not going to help yourself esteem.

Neither is he.

You need to trust yourself when you hear that voice inside you say " I can do better."

I can't say for certain but it feels like he's "getting off" on winning the power struggle with you and if so, he will definitely play that until you say No More and walk away.

Don't let this guy strip all pride and dignity from you. You don't deserve it!

Do you have some lady friends that you can get together with occasionally and have fun with? You need to focus on something that is going to benefit you and spending time with other friends is healthier than this Merry-Go-Round he has you on. If you go out with friends, be sure to leave all of him out of your fun or that subject will keep popping up and you won't enjoy yourself.

Start trying to do things that make you feel good. Let these things fill the toxic void that he's insistent on providing for you.

I wish you a lot of luck 👍🏻🙏🏻! You have to make a lot of this luck happen but you can do it.

I have been in your shoes before. Change the shoes and you'll change your future.

I'm available 🤷😊😄.... (just kidding).... but there are other men that I think are a lot healthier for you out there. 🤗😊.
Go get yourself back together and look for those other men! 😉😊👍🏻
BitterSoul · 46-50, F
@Elisbch Great advice!Thanks for making me smile!
Elisbch · M
Thank you for BC. 🙂🌻. That's very nice of you!
I'm glad I was able to help you smile. 🙂 .. @BitterSoul

Harriet03 · 41-45, F
Every time he lets you down sweetie, delete one letter of his name from your phone.
When his name is deleted, you're done!!

Phone hangman that hoe.
@Harriet03 what a great idea!!
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
@metaldog
It's quite empowering apparently.
The younger girls at work do it.
Lexiitexii · 31-35, F
I can relate this happen to me. I knew him since 2019 and he will wait until I’m hooked and believing he will see me. He will promise to see me, hangout with me. The. He will ghost me, and we have been text buddies and what I thought friends for years. We met in person when we lived in the same state in 2019 but now he just lies to me. Sad part he not that far away from me, we both adults I offer to even come to Newyork. Also he will ghost me in the middle of convo or when I think everything is good. So I rage text him and showed how angry this made me. It made me feel used and that he thinks I’m dumb and easy to manipulate. Then I blocked him after reading him to filth. I regret getting like that but I’m sick of him doing this to me. The crazy part is the same day he ghost me a guy approach me who look just like him driving a bmw, and was very respectfully. But it’s hard for me to live on from the guy I knew for years who promise me all these things and time and never did it. I feel really stupid. Like what was it about me and why me. So I know how you feel.
BitterSoul · 46-50, F
@Lexiitexii Sorry to hear that.Hugs babe.
KA9ha · 31-35, M
keep away from his advances as they are not honest..
He is taking you for a ride and has ruined your life.. as he treats you like a standby woman to be used when needed....
BitterSoul · 46-50, F
@KA9ha I'm trying to but it's harder than it looks.
KA9ha · 31-35, M
@BitterSoul i know ,,,,but realise this::: whatever is the conclusion,,,
you will be the sufferer at the end...HE WILL DUMP YOU
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
@KA9ha Him dumping her would be better than him stringing her along indefinitely.
val70 · 51-55
Trust me, you're not pathetic. Just a good person :-) in a bad experience. I know it's hard, but how about giving yourself a break. Try not to think about him any more and see what happens next
Lexiitexii · 31-35, F
The even crazy part is he will text me baee, baby send me a pic I’ll send him and pic and then he will ghost me. It’s like he tries to make me feel worthless. It’s nuts
Royrogers · 61-69, M
@turbineman40 well said
turbineman40 · 80-89, M
@Royrogers Thank you
Been there with a person who was just as cruel.
Royrogers · 61-69, M
@turbineman40 very sorry to hear this
jehova · 31-35, M
Love is often unconditional. That's the challenge really do I continue to love, despite their flaws how they treat me or their attitude. When to finally stand up and draw the line is difficult
originnone · 61-69, M
Be patient with yourself. You don't have to do anything that doesn't fit your own schedule. Sometimes things take time - even doing what you know you should.
Royrogers · 61-69, M
There are far better out there for you and you deserve better
BitterSoul · 46-50, F
@Royrogers I told him that I deserve better.You know what he said?He told me to go find Superman.😒
Dacrowman · 70-79, M
@BitterSoul go tell him you have 😅
Royrogers · 61-69, M
@BitterSoul cut him off and tell him to go to hell
Quimliqer · 70-79, M
Don’t beat yourself up over wanting to be cared for, this isn’t your problem.
You need to give him an ultimatum, Step up or Get out!!
turbineman40 · 80-89, M
Do your self a favor Kick the bum out of your life and move on to better things. Been there too
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
Whatever else you do don't marry him, don't even live with him.
pearllederman · 61-69, F
maybe you should dump him

 
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