@Deadcutie Still dead. Dead is dead.

@MethDozer its all about looks and presentability

@Deadcutie sure

When I have children, I hope they'll understand where I'm coming from. I'm sure I'll trust them as far as their choices go (unless I'm given a reason not to) but that doesn't mean I won't want to know where they are. And it's the same with my significant other. I don't care who you're with, where you are, or what you're doing - just tell me so I can have peace of mind knowing you're okay.

@KatieKatze My friends always found it odd whenever I'd call my parents to let them know that I was switching locations, they saw it as a lack of trust, when it was just like you describe.

As an adult, I call my mom every day just so she knows I'm alive. Dad is gone, she has little family to talk to, I'm single, so it's as much conversation as it is knowing where I'm going.

I don't think it's a lack of trust on the parents' part, the child's part, or two in a relationship.. It's a lack of trust in the world. I cannot trust that others will keep my loved one safe, I can't trust that they won't get into an accident, or that some deranged person won't attempt to kill them. The least they can do is let me know where they are so if something happens I can take action. Or, at least not feel guilty because I couldn't do anything to help.

That's exactly why I like to know. It's not because I think my s/o will be "up" to anything, I just worry. I tend to be very protective over the ones I love, and if I don't know where my loved ones are I can't protect them.. it makes me a bit uneasy.

@KatieKatze If you love them, make sure they don't feel smothered.

@bijouxbroussardQuite reasonable.

Evidently, it's not so basic to everyone... I would've thought he would've told me something like that, considering he threw out lines like "you're the best girlfriend I've ever had." But, being the best doesn't warrant enough importance to be updated on location, I guess.
Thank you for your comment, it's good to know some people still recognize the basics, haha.

@KatieKatze My wife points out that maybe he isn't as concerned about your whereabouts and well being as you are, and perhaps you might reconsider if you are both as invested in the relationship as the other.

Unfortunately, it's all said and done now. He proved he wasn't ready for a relationship. This situation was only the spark to set the flame, there was plenty of other fuel for it. But I do understand that point. I do think it's one of those things you need to be on the same general page on, though. Even if he didn't see the importance in it, I would have appreciated if he would have still considered my feelings. And, in turn, I wouldn't have been too overbearing about it (though I don't think I was, I only asked what he was doing and where to see when I could see him again).
If nothing else, at least I have a lesson to learn from.

@KatieKatzeDodged that bullet!

@Starcrossed that is an entirely different thing than she talks about. Her insecurity is what it's based on...not practicality or children together

@KatieKatze Danke Kleine Katze ! 🐱

Bitteschön!

@KatieKatze I agree with your point, however cell phones make getting in touch much less problematic.
Regarding someone you care about taking off and not even telling you, that would be more of a strain on the relationship than, "hey, where are ya?"

And strain it did.
I'm sure he left his home plenty without telling me, but leaving at such a distance is a little much to ignore. It made me feel irrelevant, and I don't think anyone should feel that way in a relationship.

@KatieKatze bingo.

@KatieKatze Maybe its cause I am young but I would be really mad if someone even my parents wanted to use GPS tracking with me. That feels like idk way too much. I want my personal space.

It's probably just because you're young. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. When I was around your age I hated having to tell my parents every move I made, and the thought of having a tracker on me made me feel like I could do nothing. They never actually tracked me, but I still know the feeling of privacy being completely invaded. And yet, now that I'm older, I get it. I don't know you or your family, but it's probably safe to assume any privacy-invading actions your parents may take are out of love and nothing more. Doesn't seem like it in the moment, but people typically only protect you if they genuinely care about your well-being.
Or, think of it this way.. if your parents know your location at all times you don't have to worry about updating them every five minutes and them getting mad when you forget, haha. I know my mother hates it when I don't keep her updated, and I don't even live with my parents anymore. It's just those parenting instincts kicking in, haha.

@KatieKatze I do tell my parents where I am, but they don't need to know minute by minute. They do trust me some.

I could see how it could create issues. I don't really expect anyone to text me the moment they arrive somewhere, or the moment they leave. But if you're going to travel across the state.. I'd kinda like to know. Not because I think you're doing anything wrong - I just get worried. If he would've died during that five hour trip I don't know what I would've done with myself. Unlikely, but still.It's what I think about.