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Do you think significant others should know each others' whereabouts? (read details)

Not like every move with a GPS tracker or anything, but do you think it's a good idea to know where your s/o is, and do you think they should be willing to share?

Knowing where my loved ones are (including my boyfriend, but also family) gives me a sense of security. If I need them for what ever reason, I won't have an issue tracking them down. Of course, I don't need to know their exact location down to the square inch, knowing if they're home or not is enough. I don't care if you're visiting a friend or going to the moon, I just want to know so I won't worry.

I'm just curious because my last relationship ended partly because of this. He made two trips to visit family who live five hours away, and didn't tell me either time. I ended up learning about it from a geo-filter on his Snapchat story. It left me feeling underappreciated, as if I wasn't important enough in his life to be in the "know." We weren't super serious, but serious enough that he expressed love for me - so I would have thought he'd recognize the importance of letting me know he would be five hours away... I asked him if he didn't see how this was wrong, and he said he didn't.

So, I'm just wondering what others' perspectives are. I realize I'm a bit of a worrier, so I'd think that's where my desire to know where someone is stems from. If I don't hear from someone all day I'll get nervous and start picturing the thousand ways they've probably died.. I know, I let my imagination get the best of me.
But for those of you who aren't excessively anxious, what do you think? Would you be okay with finding out your s/o took a five hour trip without making any mention to you?
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Fernie · F
You need to work on yourself...all of that is very, very unhealthy behavior on your part. No one will put up with it for very long
KatieKatze · 26-30, F
You have your opinions, I have mine. Evidently, I'm not the only one who thinks this way. All I wanted to do was explore perspectives, I'm not looking for judgement.
Fernie · F
@KatieKatze what a childish response from you. Good luck. If you continue on this path.. expect to be alone a lot kiddo. You have no clue what a mature relationship even looks like
xixgun · M
@Fernie Not necessarily
KatieKatze · 26-30, F
You decided to comment. I responded. We could have had an actual intellectual discussion like the rest of the commenters. Instead of offering insight and taking in interest in the topic, you chose to say what you said. Call me childish if you'd like, all I wanted was a pleasant, thoughtful discussion.. and I managed to get that from the rest of the comments here.
xixgun · M
@KatieKatze I agree with your point, however cell phones make getting in touch much less problematic.
Regarding someone you care about taking off and not even telling you, that would be more of a strain on the relationship than, "hey, where are ya?"
KatieKatze · 26-30, F
And strain it did.
I'm sure he left his home plenty without telling me, but leaving at such a distance is a little much to ignore. It made me feel irrelevant, and I don't think anyone should feel that way in a relationship.
xixgun · M
@KatieKatze bingo.