Do you think significant others should know each others' whereabouts? (read details)

Not like every move with a GPS tracker or anything, but do you think it's a good idea to know where your s/o is, and do you think they should be willing to share?

Knowing where my loved ones are (including my boyfriend, but also family) gives me a sense of security. If I need them for what ever reason, I won't have an issue tracking them down. Of course, I don't need to know their exact location down to the square inch, knowing if they're home or not is enough. I don't care if you're visiting a friend or going to the moon, I just want to know so I won't worry.

I'm just curious because my last relationship ended partly because of this. He made two trips to visit family who live five hours away, and didn't tell me either time. I ended up learning about it from a geo-filter on his Snapchat story. It left me feeling underappreciated, as if I wasn't important enough in his life to be in the "know." We weren't super serious, but serious enough that he expressed love for me - so I would have thought he'd recognize the importance of letting me know he would be five hours away... I asked him if he didn't see how this was wrong, and he said he didn't.

So, I'm just wondering what others' perspectives are. I realize I'm a bit of a worrier, so I'd think that's where my desire to know where someone is stems from. If I don't hear from someone all day I'll get nervous and start picturing the thousand ways they've probably died.. I know, I let my imagination get the best of me.
But for those of you who aren't excessively anxious, what do you think? Would you be okay with finding out your s/o took a five hour trip without making any mention to you?

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xixgun · M

I have no problem with that, I also want to know your general location as well.

I'm probably a better pet parent than some people are human parents. I always know where the cat is and if I don't, I go looking for him.

I don't think a lot of people realize that part of a relationship is making the other persons well being your responsibility, and vice versa.

KatieKatze · 26-30, F

That's an interesting point. I don't think a lot of people see that, either. For a parent, it's a given that you're to look after your child. It's instinct. You don't always think about how you take on a similar role when you engage in a relationship. But honestly, it really is the mother (i.e. cat mother, haha) in me that says "I need to know, I need to keep you safe." When you care about someone, whether it's a family member, a significant other, or even a pet, you just have that sense of duty. Some must just have it a little too much, haha.

xixgun · M

@KatieKatze My wife points out that maybe he isn't as concerned about your whereabouts and well being as you are, and perhaps you might reconsider if you are both as invested in the relationship as the other.

KatieKatze · 26-30, F

Unfortunately, it's all said and done now. He proved he wasn't ready for a relationship. This situation was only the spark to set the flame, there was plenty of other fuel for it. But I do understand that point. I do think it's one of those things you need to be on the same general page on, though. Even if he didn't see the importance in it, I would have appreciated if he would have still considered my feelings. And, in turn, I wouldn't have been too overbearing about it (though I don't think I was, I only asked what he was doing and where to see when I could see him again).
If nothing else, at least I have a lesson to learn from.

xixgun · M

@KatieKatzeDodged that bullet!