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Do you think significant others should know each others' whereabouts? (read details)

Not like every move with a GPS tracker or anything, but do you think it's a good idea to know where your s/o is, and do you think they should be willing to share?

Knowing where my loved ones are (including my boyfriend, but also family) gives me a sense of security. If I need them for what ever reason, I won't have an issue tracking them down. Of course, I don't need to know their exact location down to the square inch, knowing if they're home or not is enough. I don't care if you're visiting a friend or going to the moon, I just want to know so I won't worry.

I'm just curious because my last relationship ended partly because of this. He made two trips to visit family who live five hours away, and didn't tell me either time. I ended up learning about it from a geo-filter on his Snapchat story. It left me feeling underappreciated, as if I wasn't important enough in his life to be in the "know." We weren't super serious, but serious enough that he expressed love for me - so I would have thought he'd recognize the importance of letting me know he would be five hours away... I asked him if he didn't see how this was wrong, and he said he didn't.

So, I'm just wondering what others' perspectives are. I realize I'm a bit of a worrier, so I'd think that's where my desire to know where someone is stems from. If I don't hear from someone all day I'll get nervous and start picturing the thousand ways they've probably died.. I know, I let my imagination get the best of me.
But for those of you who aren't excessively anxious, what do you think? Would you be okay with finding out your s/o took a five hour trip without making any mention to you?
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SW-User
My parents drilled it into us as kids to let them know where we were going to be and if we were transferring locations in case of emergencies. Beyond that they trusted who we were with and the choices we'd make.

Some would find it overbearing nowadays. I think with all of the stuff that can happen now, it's needed as much, if not more than then.
MethDozer · M
@SW-User adults aren't children though. It is kind insane to be scared for safety just because you went a day or two not hearing , "I am okay" .
SW-User
@MethDozer True, but the habits instilled as kids carry over to some degree to adulthood.
KatieKatze · 26-30, F
When I have children, I hope they'll understand where I'm coming from. I'm sure I'll trust them as far as their choices go (unless I'm given a reason not to) but that doesn't mean I won't want to know where they are. And it's the same with my significant other. I don't care who you're with, where you are, or what you're doing - just tell me so I can have peace of mind knowing you're okay.
SW-User
@KatieKatze My friends always found it odd whenever I'd call my parents to let them know that I was switching locations, they saw it as a lack of trust, when it was just like you describe.

As an adult, I call my mom every day just so she knows I'm alive. Dad is gone, she has little family to talk to, I'm single, so it's as much conversation as it is knowing where I'm going.
KatieKatze · 26-30, F
I don't think it's a lack of trust on the parents' part, the child's part, or two in a relationship.. It's a lack of trust in the world. I cannot trust that others will keep my loved one safe, I can't trust that they won't get into an accident, or that some deranged person won't attempt to kill them. The least they can do is let me know where they are so if something happens I can take action. Or, at least not feel guilty because I couldn't do anything to help.