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Do you think significant others should know each others' whereabouts? (read details)

Not like every move with a GPS tracker or anything, but do you think it's a good idea to know where your s/o is, and do you think they should be willing to share?

Knowing where my loved ones are (including my boyfriend, but also family) gives me a sense of security. If I need them for what ever reason, I won't have an issue tracking them down. Of course, I don't need to know their exact location down to the square inch, knowing if they're home or not is enough. I don't care if you're visiting a friend or going to the moon, I just want to know so I won't worry.

I'm just curious because my last relationship ended partly because of this. He made two trips to visit family who live five hours away, and didn't tell me either time. I ended up learning about it from a geo-filter on his Snapchat story. It left me feeling underappreciated, as if I wasn't important enough in his life to be in the "know." We weren't super serious, but serious enough that he expressed love for me - so I would have thought he'd recognize the importance of letting me know he would be five hours away... I asked him if he didn't see how this was wrong, and he said he didn't.

So, I'm just wondering what others' perspectives are. I realize I'm a bit of a worrier, so I'd think that's where my desire to know where someone is stems from. If I don't hear from someone all day I'll get nervous and start picturing the thousand ways they've probably died.. I know, I let my imagination get the best of me.
But for those of you who aren't excessively anxious, what do you think? Would you be okay with finding out your s/o took a five hour trip without making any mention to you?
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danawilliams2004 · 18-21, F
No. I think that is psycho crazy. He should have told you but GPS tracking is crazy.
KatieKatze · 26-30, F
Then we're on the same page. GPS tracking is too much at such a stage in the relationship, I agree. But I believe telling someone you're going to visit family five hours away is just considerate.
danawilliams2004 · 18-21, F
@KatieKatze Maybe its cause I am young but I would be really mad if someone even my parents wanted to use GPS tracking with me. That feels like idk way too much. I want my personal space.
KatieKatze · 26-30, F
It's probably just because you're young. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. When I was around your age I hated having to tell my parents every move I made, and the thought of having a tracker on me made me feel like I could do nothing. They never actually tracked me, but I still know the feeling of privacy being completely invaded. And yet, now that I'm older, I get it. I don't know you or your family, but it's probably safe to assume any privacy-invading actions your parents may take are out of love and nothing more. Doesn't seem like it in the moment, but people typically only protect you if they genuinely care about your well-being.
Or, think of it this way.. if your parents know your location at all times you don't have to worry about updating them every five minutes and them getting mad when you forget, haha. I know my mother hates it when I don't keep her updated, and I don't even live with my parents anymore. It's just those parenting instincts kicking in, haha.
danawilliams2004 · 18-21, F
@KatieKatze I do tell my parents where I am, but they don't need to know minute by minute. They do trust me some.