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Do you think significant others should know each others' whereabouts? (read details)

Not like every move with a GPS tracker or anything, but do you think it's a good idea to know where your s/o is, and do you think they should be willing to share?

Knowing where my loved ones are (including my boyfriend, but also family) gives me a sense of security. If I need them for what ever reason, I won't have an issue tracking them down. Of course, I don't need to know their exact location down to the square inch, knowing if they're home or not is enough. I don't care if you're visiting a friend or going to the moon, I just want to know so I won't worry.

I'm just curious because my last relationship ended partly because of this. He made two trips to visit family who live five hours away, and didn't tell me either time. I ended up learning about it from a geo-filter on his Snapchat story. It left me feeling underappreciated, as if I wasn't important enough in his life to be in the "know." We weren't super serious, but serious enough that he expressed love for me - so I would have thought he'd recognize the importance of letting me know he would be five hours away... I asked him if he didn't see how this was wrong, and he said he didn't.

So, I'm just wondering what others' perspectives are. I realize I'm a bit of a worrier, so I'd think that's where my desire to know where someone is stems from. If I don't hear from someone all day I'll get nervous and start picturing the thousand ways they've probably died.. I know, I let my imagination get the best of me.
But for those of you who aren't excessively anxious, what do you think? Would you be okay with finding out your s/o took a five hour trip without making any mention to you?
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MethDozer · M
Eh not really. I kind of find it odd that some friends have to check in all the time with their SO. Especially when away for a weekend or something. For me personally it often became a source of conflict and resentment when. I was asked " where were you?" Or " why didn't you check in at all this weekend?".
KatieKatze · 26-30, F
I could see how it could create issues. I don't really expect anyone to text me the moment they arrive somewhere, or the moment they leave. But if you're going to travel across the state.. I'd kinda like to know. Not because I think you're doing anything wrong - I just get worried. If he would've died during that five hour trip I don't know what I would've done with myself. Unlikely, but still.It's what I think about.