Do you think significant others should know each others' whereabouts? (read details)

Not like every move with a GPS tracker or anything, but do you think it's a good idea to know where your s/o is, and do you think they should be willing to share?

Knowing where my loved ones are (including my boyfriend, but also family) gives me a sense of security. If I need them for what ever reason, I won't have an issue tracking them down. Of course, I don't need to know their exact location down to the square inch, knowing if they're home or not is enough. I don't care if you're visiting a friend or going to the moon, I just want to know so I won't worry.

I'm just curious because my last relationship ended partly because of this. He made two trips to visit family who live five hours away, and didn't tell me either time. I ended up learning about it from a geo-filter on his Snapchat story. It left me feeling underappreciated, as if I wasn't important enough in his life to be in the "know." We weren't super serious, but serious enough that he expressed love for me - so I would have thought he'd recognize the importance of letting me know he would be five hours away... I asked him if he didn't see how this was wrong, and he said he didn't.

So, I'm just wondering what others' perspectives are. I realize I'm a bit of a worrier, so I'd think that's where my desire to know where someone is stems from. If I don't hear from someone all day I'll get nervous and start picturing the thousand ways they've probably died.. I know, I let my imagination get the best of me.
But for those of you who aren't excessively anxious, what do you think? Would you be okay with finding out your s/o took a five hour trip without making any mention to you?

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Deadcutie · 18-21, F

I don’t have a car and neither does my gf so I basically know where she spends most her time when not with me.. not that I really need to know as I willfully and blindly trust her faithfulness. Same way with our husband and his wife. However we all do have our phones activated on the Life360 app and know where eachother is.. even without that, I’m constantly texting with them and it’s natural to say things like going to Walmart and stuff .

Now my parents make me have the find my iPhone app, more or less Incase I’m kidnapped .. they might be able to find me using my phone, but they could potentially spy on where I’m going, so I’ll leave it at home or school when my husband picks me up to go roleplay for him

KatieKatze · 26-30, F

"It's natural" sums up how I feel about it all. It's just natural to me to throw in what I'm doing and where I'm going. As much as I like to know where they are, I like them to know where I am - so I don't have to think about it. Of course I don't text and say "just arrived at Walmart at 2:48 pm." It just comes up in conversation - naturally.
I think apps like Life360 could be pretty useful, if so many people weren't so insecure. I know what it's like to be a kid and not want your parents all up in your business, so I understand the desire for privacy. But now that I'm older and have been more exposed to the world I get it. So much could happen to anyone at any time. If an app will tell my loved ones where I am so they don't think it was me who got shot in the street, killed in the car crash, or kidnapped - I'm fine with it.

MethDozer · M

@KatieKatze No app will keep you safe. It is a false sense of security in reality.

KatieKatze · 26-30, F

Even a false sense of security can give you peace of mind.
If a loved one is going to be seriously harmed or killed due to forces outside of my control, I'll feel somewhat better just knowing I tried to look out for them. Nothing wrong in that.

MethDozer · M

@KatieKatze There is though. Those apps are sacrificing privacy which is a huge danger in and of itself and false senses of security are incredibly dangerous as they make one more susceptible to dangerous situations because they feel.protected when they are not. People say things like " can't be too careful.nowadys" because they hear or read some outrageous example of something happening somewhere but the reality is we are safer now than ever in almost every way. Fact is one's safety is entirely in their own hands at all times. It is all on the individual really.

Peace of mind can be a very dangerous thing if it is unwarranted.

KatieKatze · 26-30, F

Maybe so. I definitely see what you're saying, but I still can't help but feel the way I do. I think all anyone ever wants is to keep their loved ones safe, but you're right - it's not up to us. I likely won't download that app and require my boyfriend to do the same, but someday when I have a husband and children, I'll probably consider it. To me, I think it's a less evasive form of protection, rather than hovering over your child constantly. But hey, I'm only nineteen. Who knows what'll happen by then.
Thank you for your perspective, it's an interesting take.

MethDozer · M

@KatieKatze It is a whole different ballgame once children are involved. It is basically the adults job to.control their actions. Yet even they need to run out alone and explore and learn how to navigate the world. Helicopter parenting is clearly raising wimps and future victims as well. There needs to be a balance. You see these people who won't let a 10 year old ride their bike down the street put of fear but what does that teach them really? At some point they need to be exposed and learn how to recognize and avoid certain situations. If mom and dad are always right their to point out a sketchy situation they never learn to look around and be aware Nd grow up to be unaware adults with no.risk assessment skills or how to handle it. They just panic and walk around scared which makes them vulnerable.

Deadcutie · 18-21, F

@MethDozer I don’t think it’s a false sense of security, while the app itself doesn’t protect you from harm, it can lead authorities to find you faster than it would normally take.. what if I fall in a ravine? The car I’m in crashes in a secluded spot, I’m abducted, there are many situations it can save my life..

As far as privacy , at my age, my parents right to know where I am overrides any presumed privacy rights I have as for as the locations I visit..

I don’t like it , but it’s a condition I have to accept in exchange for getting to have the phone..

MethDozer · M

@Deadcutie Yeah if they pay the they set the rules.

Thing is though if you are kidnapped or attacked? First thing they do is throw the phone away. So most of the time they just waste time looking for the phone. Plus it is a false sense since police are not a protectionist force, they are a reactionary force. By time they are able to respond you are already in danger or dead. Only in a totalitarian state where the police have absolute control over all our moves can they even possibly be a protectionist force but then who protects us from them and what kind of life is it besides?

Deadcutie · 18-21, F

@MethDozer it is possible, many variables to argue over, but even our roleplay abductions are hectic.. in all the confusion it is quite likely a phone in a pocket or purse can be overlooked, or falls into a area of the vehicle they don’t notice. In a lot of cases, the phone is taken away but not necessarily discarded.. they may simply turn the phone off.. phones are a good sell if they think they can pawn it..
Find my phone app will turn the phone back on if off..
I know of 3 abductions here in the area this year inwhich they were found using the find my phone app, or a app similar..

And even if it’s not in time to save my life, at least my body is recovered quickly, not left to rot in a cornfield for a month

MethDozer · M

@Deadcutie I guess so. Dead us dead. Be it in the morgue or the corn field.

Deadcutie · 18-21, F

@MethDozer no, the faster you are found and refrirated the less decomposing and putrification.. not to mention the heat bloating your body like a balloon and the animals and insects. I do not relish the thought of blow flies being the only children to come from my vagina...
That girl found in the cornfield I guarantee will have to be a cremation or closed casket funural,

MethDozer · M

@Deadcutie Still dead. Dead is dead.

Deadcutie · 18-21, F

@MethDozer its all about looks and presentability

MethDozer · M

@Deadcutie sure