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If you start dating and one has bad news, how soon should they tell the other?

I started dating someone online... she let me know pretty quickly that she has an issue... that effectively killed the relationship. When is two early to reveal the big stuff?
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
Reveal it at first meeting that's how you don't waste time
Teresa628 · 56-60, F
I don't get how you "date" someone online
Peaches · F
@Teresa628 Me either?!😏
Peaches · F
@Bazingaa Sounds like she was just a cat fish. I knew someone who "dated" on line and every time they made plans to meet she'd call it off, or something would "come up." I think it's weird she told ya after you already bought the tickets.🐡
Bazingaa · 51-55, M
Well... she said she bought the. Maybe she didn't ... good point.@Peaches
LadyGrace · 70-79
I think it's important to be honest and get things out front, so there's no surprises, if it's something really important.
dumpstermeow · 41-45, F
Immediately
Sweet517 · 51-55, F
An STD would be a deal breaker, although plenty of people manage realtionships with them using safe sex. IMHO, she would have been better to say something before the tickets were bought
Bazingaa · 51-55, M
It didn't take long to disintegrate sadly... we barely speak and that was a couple weeks ago. @Sweet517
Sweet517 · 51-55, F
@Bazingaa I'm so sorry😞
Bazingaa · 51-55, M
Thanks... was rough for us... and rough for my friend Jenn to deal with my whining! But she is a great friend 😊@Sweet517
Ynotjenn · F
This is a tough one. Depends on the issue I suppose and if you think they're worth it. But like I've said...the odds of it working out are slim anyway. Just a complicated situation. And you deserve the best 🤗
Bazingaa · 51-55, M
Awwww thanks 😊@Ynotjenn
Shayla · F
With std's it should be revealed before engaging in sex. I would hope that the partner educate themselves on the specific ailment before making an informed decision.
Bazingaa · 51-55, M
Maybe... I think she cancelled them@Shayla
Shayla · F
@Bazingaa It's a bad situation for everyone. Sorry.
Bazingaa · 51-55, M
Thank you
Doomflower · 41-45, M
I think the first date should be where you are required to put deal breakers on the table.
Bazingaa · 51-55, M
Problem is she is across country... big effort to make this particular first date...good advice, but easier if local.@Doomflower
louisesoulstar · 26-30, F
I agree with them both, tell her at once and don't wait.
somethingIsuppose · 31-35, F
I'd rather not waste time and invest emotionally for something that won't last. Like if it's a deal breaker 100% like for me if they were on heroin or something
Bazingaa · 51-55, M
Does it matter what it is? In this case it was std...
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@Bazingaa No, throw it all out there
katielass · F
@Bazingaa yes, it matters what it is, like an STD should be revealed fairly soon but maybe not on the first date.
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
Pretty soon like why waste either person's time by prolonging the inevitable
UndeadPrivateer · 31-35, M

 
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