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Do you think cheating is inevitable in a relationship?

Sometimes I think it will happen sooner or later and I just have to choose if I’ll accept it or not.
wackidywack · 22-25
No what the fuck
Ferric67 · M
@wackidywack that's right
AbbeyRhode · F
It is neither inevitable nor acceptable. Like other abhorrent behavior, those engaged in it would love to normalize it, to make themselves appear less guilty. But the truth is, the majority of people know it's wrong, and don't do it.
PatKirby · M
@AbbeyRhode

That's right. If I did everything I wanted to I'd be put in prison. There comes a time in life where you just gotta say I've had enough and take the high road. It requires fortitude, discipline, courage and patience.
Budwick · 70-79, M
Absolutely not.
4meAndyou · F
It is not inevitable. Be sure your partner is someone you love AND respect, and that he or she has the SAME set of values that you do. TALK. That is so important. Talk in a kind and loving way, and let your partner know that you NEED to be in a monogamous relationship...and if that is not possible, that you NEED for your relationship to end.
DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
I felt the same way but i like to think there are fine lines between how far someones willing to go and actually go. For me i might joke or flirt a little on here but everyone knows im married and inlove. I have never cheated on him. I dont even flirt in real life or joke like i do on here but thats as far as it goes. As for my partner i cant say whats in his head but he gives me access to his phone and emails. Fb all that. He will ask me to do things on his phone for him. Its not a biggie. Also we have a close bond and talk to eachother a lot. We have our issues though but i dont get the feeling hed cheat, not now atleast
WandererTony · 56-60, M
Its not inevitable. But sadly common. I think it marks the beginning of the end. Sometimes it is excused and they work on their relationships again. But I doubt whether it can be the same again. It basically becomes a compromise.
Circumstances, possibilities, and reasons to do so may be inevitable, depending on the level of commitment, issues, nature of the people involved, etc.

But actually doing it may be prevented from happening. That would be their choice.
SW-User
are you also weighing in the possibility of you cheating? you can't be the only one who isn't gonna cheat right?
Scribbles · 36-40, F
First off, No. No it is not inevitable.

But it's so common, that statistically speaking, It is likely to happen to everybody sometimes.

So I think it's good to idk, prepare yourself for the possibility, idk.

But it does not make it an acceptable inevitable event to deal with in every monogamous relationship. That just isn't true.

I posted a story here a long time ago about my fear about getting pregnant because the probability of being a single mother at the time of birth either by choice or not is like 60%. You either break up, get cheated on and break up, or he leaves, etc. That absolutely gels with what I've seen in real life. I've seen a lot of break ups and abandonment and divorces during a first pregnancy. That seemed inevitable to me at the time.

However I also know some good people and good relationships too. People who have never and would never cheat or intentionally hurt their partner. So there are people out there who choose to be respectful, faithful and honest and would break up or divorce before cheating. Just got to find someone good like that. Idk.
ElRengo · 70-79, M
No, I don´t think it´s inevitable.
And if it happens ........ the relationship is no more IMO worth of staying.
And may be it never was, to begin with.
BeJeweled · F
I'd know if he did. And if he did it would be OVER. I wont settle for sloppy seconds and neither should you if it ever happens. Self worth!💪🏻👍🏻
Strict4u · 56-60, M
No not everyone cheats some are faithful and take their relationship seriously
Elessar · 26-30, M
No, but the chances of it happening are greatly underestimated by most
Adogslife · 61-69, M
It is if you and your partner aren’t sexually compatible.

It’s almost a guarantee if your partner is emotionally starved.

It can be if your life goals aren’t moving you in the same direction as well.

Generally speaking, I think it’s the actions that lead to the affair(s) that are the cheating. You’re shortchanging the relationship. The affair is simply the end result.
Casheyane · 26-30, F
For a**holes maybe.
But for decent people, no.
SW-User
Not at all
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
No that really sepends on the individual person. Just because your a cheater or youve been cheated on doesnt mean everyone is like that. Maybe find better people
SlaveEt · 36-40, F
Not a strong and healthy one where both/all partners value the other(s). You don't have to accept bad behavior, if you don't want to.
No, not everyone cheats. It can sometimes seem that way particularly with the modern internet where people seem to have a thing now for writing big convoluted revenge stories where their ex is a cartoon villain.

The only time in my life where it was common place was in high school when nobody had the maturity yet to break up with someone and move on.
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow at least you didn't cheat on your ex. You have that going for you. Amen
@Stargazer89 Stay away from my private life.
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow you posted about it and you try to talk about my private life

Fair game,
JessicavIII · 26-30, F
It may be inevitable, everyone has a different definition of what cheating will be, but you should never have to accept it
BeautifulLibra · 46-50, F
No it's not inevitable. If things aren't right at home and you talk about it yet it never gets resolves,that leads to cheating. It doesn't make it right but it happens all the time. It's possible to be faithful if you talk with your partner and come to a resolution to any issues.
I met a guy several years ago that was looking for sex because his wife was on antidepressants and didn't have any desire. He wanted it though so was he wrong to step out on her? Maybe, Maybe not.
Nope. As long as you believe in your stance, I don’t think the human mind is that weak.
I’m going thru that rn too. My bf (we just decided to take a break) knew each other’s phone passcodes and passwords but then after I caught him cheating he didn’t wanna share anything. If I ever get back with him though how can I let him know I would expect to know everything again like how we once were. Most of my friends are getting cheated on too. I wonder if everyone cheats
meJess · F
Your relationship with your poker buddies will not be the same
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
Not if your in a relationship with an emotionally healthy partner.
zonavar68 · 51-55, M
No but it all depends. Every relationship is different.
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
It’s not inevitable but much of the problem is out of your control. People cheat to get something that is missing in their relationship and all something within themselves. If they have so
Syncing broke. Inside them then there is nothing you can do to stop them from cheating. As a woman there is a lot that you can do to keep your relationship hot and interesting.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
No. Depends on who you chose as a partner.
It’s not cheating if you’re in a different state, wearing a condom, don’t get caught, or if lots of alcohol was involved.

No seriously. If both parties aren’t getting what they need then yes. Cheating and or a split are inevitable. Some will stick it out but most won’t
Riemann · 31-35, M
No. Get out of that state of mind.
I was at a personal development workshop once, where the facilitator asked, "hands up anyone here who has an an affair outside their primary relationship."
When the count was done, it was 80% of the crowd of just over 200 people, roughly equal between women and men.
No not everyone is a degenerate
I sub to the theory that love is killed off and people cheat hoping to find that passion that is like fire hoping it never dies out. Not a justification just a desperation of something wonderful that can feel lost.
@userfawkes1105 Familiarity goes against the excitement of the unknown and discovery.
But if a couple can learn to role play they can makes things endlessly fresh.
SW-User
Not in my world
Some words of advice. Keep your standards. If you go into it thinking being cheated on is a given people who have convinced themselves of that tend to attract cheaters. If you see any red flags walk.
Ontheroad · M
Not inevitable, at least not in all relationships. I do think, and what life experiences tell me is most people, given the right timing, set of circumstances and events, can wander and cheat at least emotionally.
meggie · F
It depends sometimes on what sort of relationship you are prepared to settle for. My friend fell in love with a charming womaniser who screws around, yet she seems grateful to have him and makes excuses for him.
PatKirby · M
Are you asking for permission, or have you already made up your mind?
@PatKirby And the right wing idiots are slut shaming already. That didn't take long.
PatKirby · M
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow

Coming from The Gimp, that's the ultimate compliment 😴

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Who made up the silly rule that you cant have sex with others outside of a relationship
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
@Whatawebsite if it's consensual non-monogamy, it's fine, because then it's not cheating. However if you've agreed to monogamy, it's breaking your partner's trust.
@basilfawlty89 I just think over the years people have just been brain washed into thinking you cant enjoy sex with others, personally people should work on themselves to allow their partners to enjoying sex with others, but I am afraid most people are not intelligent to accept it
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
@Whatawebsite it depends on the person. I'm monogamous by nature, I've never been tempted to cheat on a significant other. I wouldn't personally feel comfortable with polyamory, but more power to this that are.
eventtemple123 · 18-21, M
Depends. If both people are well-intended, absolutely not. Some people are inevitably going to cheat, but they are always terrible in other ways too.
Ferric67 · M
Every situation and relationship is different, not everyone reacts to the same problems/issues the same way.
originnone · 56-60, M
Not inevitable, but it's inevitable that you'll deal with relationship issues that are just as significant....many many times.
SW-User
Probably only about half of the population cheats it’s really not all that common but it depends where you live.
wonkywinky · 51-55, M
It seems to be.It shouldnt have to be but it seems to happen a lot.
I guess humans are always looking over the fence at whats next door..
Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
I think it depends on the relationship. Or how much effort the parties concerned put into the relationship.
Freeranger · M
Certainly, if you co-joined in it under false pretenses. What's not to love?
Not at all, but the end point to most (not all) relationships is inevitable
Must be with the wrong person to think that way. It's not inevitable.
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
Not inevitable, but not inconceivable either.

 
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