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SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@ScreamingFox
When you say you don’t want drama or problems, what kind of things would cross that line for you?
When you say you don’t want drama or problems, what kind of things would cross that line for you?
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@SilentObZerver
Other women
Legal issues
Severe emotional problems
Erectile dysfunction
Childish behavior
Worrying about what people think
Being confrontational over things that need to be let go.
I don't want to go into something knowing I will be crying, hurt and given reasons to walk away.
Other women
Legal issues
Severe emotional problems
Erectile dysfunction
Childish behavior
Worrying about what people think
Being confrontational over things that need to be let go.
I don't want to go into something knowing I will be crying, hurt and given reasons to walk away.
KentuckyFriedFloozy · 26-30, F
Sexual past? I don't care at all. As long as the test is clean. What they did when they were single, I don't care about. I don't care about "body counts"
Any type of criminal past would absolutely matter.
Also single life past isn't the same as relationship past. Their single life I don't worry about. It's how they handled when they were in an actual relationship that I care about.
Any type of criminal past would absolutely matter.
Also single life past isn't the same as relationship past. Their single life I don't worry about. It's how they handled when they were in an actual relationship that I care about.
KentuckyFriedFloozy · 26-30, F
@SilentObZerver STL??
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@KentuckyFriedFloozy typo... meant STR
KentuckyFriedFloozy · 26-30, F
@SilentObZerver a lot of short term relationships? Yeah it's a concern. Because why so many?
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
I don't ever want my other half to wonder about anything so we made sure to start off with an open dialogue. We put everything out on the table. Every secret, everything! That works for us! It may not work for other people. We both know that we can ask each other anything and that we will be honest even if we won't like the answer.
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@AngelUnforgiven great!
Blondily · F
Not at all@SilentObZerver
Yet he would have had to be the only male on earth without a past loI 😆
Yet he would have had to be the only male on earth without a past loI 😆
butterflybaby75 · 46-50, F
Not anything I worry about. I don't ever ask about a man's past history unless he brings it up, then the door it opened. Women I find (I date them too) are way more 'spitting it out' types.
Men seem pretty curious about my past, especially my sexual past. Guess that goes with the territory.
Men seem pretty curious about my past, especially my sexual past. Guess that goes with the territory.
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@butterflybaby75 great!
But how has the women you've dated, who are the "spitting it out types" helped in your relationships compared to those partners who dont talk about it....
Also , why do you seem not to "worry" about a man’s past, is it that you dont really place much premium on it or you think its not too relevant or has no bearing on his relationship with you?
But how has the women you've dated, who are the "spitting it out types" helped in your relationships compared to those partners who dont talk about it....
Also , why do you seem not to "worry" about a man’s past, is it that you dont really place much premium on it or you think its not too relevant or has no bearing on his relationship with you?
2ndtimeguy · 61-69, M
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@2ndtimeguy and what was her answer?
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@peterlee is it because you have a past, thats why you think your wife's past is none of your business?
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@OlderSometimesWiser and those are definitely good reasons to want to know a man's past
But what if he's been a virgin his whole life till he met you or never been in any relationship prior to meeting you?
But what if he's been a virgin his whole life till he met you or never been in any relationship prior to meeting you?
@SilentObZerver If he’s my age I’m concerned.
If you’re talking about yourself and a woman of similar age, I don’t see it as a big deal.
If you’re talking about yourself and a woman of similar age, I don’t see it as a big deal.
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@OlderSometimesWiser
Asking cos i have heard some women hold the view that if a man has never dated or has no sexual experience ....its a red flag for them
So since you say if he's your age you'll be concerned it seems to tie in with that notion held by those women
So why will you be concerned and what age will it raise issues for you to be concerned?
Asking cos i have heard some women hold the view that if a man has never dated or has no sexual experience ....its a red flag for them
So since you say if he's your age you'll be concerned it seems to tie in with that notion held by those women
So why will you be concerned and what age will it raise issues for you to be concerned?
Gingerbreadspice · F
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@Gingerbreadspice but if you care, why dont you ask then?
If you don’t want to know and oneday to find out from others or through other means
How will you take it?
If you don’t want to know and oneday to find out from others or through other means
How will you take it?
Gingerbreadspice · F
@SilentObZerver I mean I might care if I knew. I’d assume there were always a few before me but I don’t want to actively know there were hundreds. Ignorance is bliss as they say.
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@Gingerbreadspice i get it!
TexChik · F
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@TexChik these are definitely good reasons to consider about a man's past
But then what if he tells you he's now a new or changed person , "born again" assuming he had a bad criminal record or was into drug in the past or was once an abuser?
But then what if he tells you he's now a new or changed person , "born again" assuming he had a bad criminal record or was into drug in the past or was once an abuser?
TexChik · F
@SilentObZerver iwould say adios, no felons allowed
SomeMichGuy · M
SomeMichGuy · M
@SilentObZerver Hmmmm...in context, no.
SilentObZerver · 22-25, M
@SomeMichGuy lol
Why?
Why?
SomeMichGuy · M
@SilentObZerver Why? Why would I not care if my partner were to know my relationship past in context?
YoMomma ·
Depends on if he is still involved with said past or not