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Have you ever been able to ask a ex for feedback?

I'm not talking about the immature partners that attack you.

But can offer genuine constructive feedback on why things didn't work out?
Mellowgirl
31-35, F
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exexec · 70-79, C
One of my wife's exes from college did contact her later and asked if he could have done anything different to keep her from dumping her. The answer was "no." I think she gave a longer explanation.
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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
No i don't have many exes, i've lost respect for them so i keep my distance. I know why things didn't work out so i don't need their feedback on it.
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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@AngelUnforgiven I hear you.

I think back on previous relationships and I think I was desperate.

I just wanted someone. I wanted to feel complete by having a partner, but I never really met guys who saw me for who I truly was. They saw the fun time, party girl, happy go lucky. So they treated me as a temporary.

I was young.
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Pressure
I know my last ex wouldn’t be capable of this. And maybe not my high school one.

But the one on on my early 20’s probably could.
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SlippingAway · 46-50, F
Yes, I mean generally I've known the reasons why but I have had in-depth conversations about it before.
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WoWgirll · 36-40, F
Me and my ex have a very, very odd relationship. Yes I could ask him anything and he would be honest
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FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
I have never been able to, but I have been able to for my partners.
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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@FoxyQueen were you mostly the person ending the relationships?
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FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@Mellowgirl Not always. I was a people pleaser for a long part of my life, so I would often check in with my partner to see if there was anything I had done or said that I hadn't been aware of the impact. I ended up keeping that because it just seemed helpful for me.

Usually, ex's have come back and asked me about my decisions and that. I tend to remain friends with most of my ex's. I'm just lucky that way.
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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@FoxyQueen thank you for explaining. I appreciate that.

I have often wanted to maintain friendships with some but wasn't able to. Except for 1.

He's now one of my closest friends.
Moved on with a family of his own too.
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uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Strange concept. I doubt I would seriously consider it, considering the source(exes in general).
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Chiefjustice · 46-50, M
No, my last one loved personal attacks.
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2ndtimeguy · 61-69, M
No she is awful to deal with
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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@PatientlyWaiting25 I hear you. Some of my relationships were like that.
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