Have you ever been able to ask a ex for feedback?

I'm not talking about the immature partners that attack you.

But can offer genuine constructive feedback on why things didn't work out?

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FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

I have never been able to, but I have been able to for my partners.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@FoxyQueen that's interesting.
Can I ask something more?

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@Mellowgirl of course!

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@FoxyQueen were you mostly the person ending the relationships?

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@Mellowgirl Not always. I was a people pleaser for a long part of my life, so I would often check in with my partner to see if there was anything I had done or said that I hadn't been aware of the impact. I ended up keeping that because it just seemed helpful for me.

Usually, ex's have come back and asked me about my decisions and that. I tend to remain friends with most of my ex's. I'm just lucky that way.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@FoxyQueen thank you for explaining. I appreciate that.

I have often wanted to maintain friendships with some but wasn't able to. Except for 1.

He's now one of my closest friends.
Moved on with a family of his own too.