Is it ever ok to get back with an ex?

I had a curious encounter with an ex fiancée , thirty years after we split. We had been together for two years as students . I had mourned her terribly. We had finished up at different unis. I assumed it was the distance.

No, it was the guy who brought her to Oxford to see me.
I never knew, and they married within a year, still are I think.

So, with that I say, once the ship has sailed, move on and never look back.

I just voted for sometimes it works.

If he's local again then there's no reason you shouldn't go on a few dates and see how that goes. Getting to know each other, all over again

I’ll never say no. Most times it doesn't. However, I met 2 people that dated as teenagers. Drifted apart and got back together 20 years later.

I know a couple who were married for 10 years or so, divorced for a couple years, then remarried. They’ve been together now for 20 or so years this time. It can work

I think it’s okay to get back with an ex if the reason you broke up in the first place has been genuinely resolved. Otherwise, you're just walking back into the same cycle with new hopes but the same problems.

in my not so humble opinion people don't really change that much, if at all, over time.

there is a reason for one or both of you that the relationship ended.

it may last a bit, and the familiariity will be pleasant.

but those old habits and attitudes will raise their ugly head again...and the problems that broke you up to start with - will probably do it again.

If as you’ve said, you ended things on good terms and long distance was the main reason the relationship ended but is no longer an issue, then giving it another try doesn’t sound unreasonable.

i usually think of it as they became an ex for a reason. if they couldn't grow or change and i couldn't accept and move on or vice-versa, its unlikely to ever be different.

familiar or comfortable doesn’t mean its the right path.

It depends on why you broke up and whether those things have changed or been resolved. It’s easy to look back with rose tinted glasses and forget the down sides.

It's something I've done a couple of times along the way and always regretted it in the end. Everyone's different though. :)

Well, I was in the minority. Love is brutal, love is wild. Take care!

That really depends why you split. I wouldn't get back with any of my exes.

It depends on the reason it didn't work out before. Some things can change, other things won't.

If i was you make sure if you are giving it another make sure its for the right reasons

Totally depends on break up situation

I married my ex… in 3 years we divorced!

It depends (be sure he doesn't wear Depends also, cause then he's too old for you):

Was the split acrimonious?
Was there infidelity?
Are you compatible?

It depends on why the relationship ended.

Hey mamacita
First off, it depends on why they're an ex

Has never worked out well for me.

Hell no lol, I'd rather be alone 😂

i want to refry those beans with just one ex in particular

Maybe, maybe not. Who knows

It depends on the people you have become.

Probably I would never,

There was and is a reason that he is called Ex

They're ex for a reason

Sure! But it depends on your reasoning. There’s good and bad reasons for doing that.

You won’t know until you try.

I had & will never have an interest

It prevents whackadoodles from wasting MY time, so yeah.

No.

No

Yes, I think a connection is a connection, why not?
I saw an ex for years, but unfortunately she’s the one who broke away from me now.